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Hiya everyone!
**Thanks for stopping by my very first post! Before you scroll to the topic, here’s a bit about me as the author. I’m Niamh, 36, a practicing gynecologist (OB-GYN) from Ireland. I’m a bi female and have always been fascinated by the vagina which I know is no surprise given my profession. Sadly as a professional medical practioner, I can never truly express to my patients how much I adore their vaginas and how I love examining the details of their roses from every perfect fold to every moist crevis. Exploring female sexuality and anatomy is definitely a passion of mine and so when a friend described this site as being a fusion of scientific knowledge and open sexual discussion, I almost exploded with excitement! I'm open to chatting about anything, be it medical, supposedly tabboo, or just fun (and dare I say naughty!). If you fancy a chat or have any questions feel free to reach out to me, I'd love to hear from you! Now on to the good stuff!**
So, the question of the day: Is masturbation more of a habit or a routine? This is a question that I've been asking myself since being single following my divorce three years ago. During marriage, masturbation was a rare occurence in my daily life (and that's NOT a compliment to my ex's performance in bed!) but mainly because my children were younger and I found myself busy with life to the point it hardly occured to me to dedicate a portion of my day to self love.
Scientifically, a habbit emerges because the brain is constantly looking for ways to save effort and a routine is made up of structured actions to drive certain goals in one's life, be it physical, psychological or even emotional. What then is the difference and how has masturbation helped me to distinguish the two?
Well to put it simply, I think the key difference is intentionality. Having a deeper awareness or a purpose behind engaging in an action is what drives a routine whereas a habbit, due to it's monotony, tends to lose that purpose and no longer relishes the same benefits. A routine is therefore built around your life and moulds to achieve your wider life objectives. A habbit - and not exclusively those of an addictive nature - tend to disregard this wider coherency with your life's goals and simply becomes a way of foregoing effort for short term gain.
For a good year, masturbation has been a solid part of my daily routine to the extent that I feel a sense of comfort, peace, positive energy, and a will to accomplish things whenever I engage it. It has helped me tremendously to stay engaged with my body in a loving and caring way even beyond the pleasure. In contrast to when I was newly divorced, my relationship with masturbation was toxic. It was more a coping mechanism. I didnt respect it enough for me to actually find the healing and comfort which I was seeking at the time and which I now know it can give. Given my experiences of masrturbation in these contrasting periods of my life, I'm a strong believer that masturbation as a routine has done me wonders and I hope it can for many other women.
I hope you found my insights interesting despite it being quite personal. I'd love to hear how you view your relationship with masturbation. Maybe my next post could be exploring my exact masturbation routine? : )
Niamh x
**Thanks for stopping by my very first post! Before you scroll to the topic, here’s a bit about me as the author. I’m Niamh, 36, a practicing gynecologist (OB-GYN) from Ireland. I’m a bi female and have always been fascinated by the vagina which I know is no surprise given my profession. Sadly as a professional medical practioner, I can never truly express to my patients how much I adore their vaginas and how I love examining the details of their roses from every perfect fold to every moist crevis. Exploring female sexuality and anatomy is definitely a passion of mine and so when a friend described this site as being a fusion of scientific knowledge and open sexual discussion, I almost exploded with excitement! I'm open to chatting about anything, be it medical, supposedly tabboo, or just fun (and dare I say naughty!). If you fancy a chat or have any questions feel free to reach out to me, I'd love to hear from you! Now on to the good stuff!**
So, the question of the day: Is masturbation more of a habit or a routine? This is a question that I've been asking myself since being single following my divorce three years ago. During marriage, masturbation was a rare occurence in my daily life (and that's NOT a compliment to my ex's performance in bed!) but mainly because my children were younger and I found myself busy with life to the point it hardly occured to me to dedicate a portion of my day to self love.
Scientifically, a habbit emerges because the brain is constantly looking for ways to save effort and a routine is made up of structured actions to drive certain goals in one's life, be it physical, psychological or even emotional. What then is the difference and how has masturbation helped me to distinguish the two?
Well to put it simply, I think the key difference is intentionality. Having a deeper awareness or a purpose behind engaging in an action is what drives a routine whereas a habbit, due to it's monotony, tends to lose that purpose and no longer relishes the same benefits. A routine is therefore built around your life and moulds to achieve your wider life objectives. A habbit - and not exclusively those of an addictive nature - tend to disregard this wider coherency with your life's goals and simply becomes a way of foregoing effort for short term gain.
For a good year, masturbation has been a solid part of my daily routine to the extent that I feel a sense of comfort, peace, positive energy, and a will to accomplish things whenever I engage it. It has helped me tremendously to stay engaged with my body in a loving and caring way even beyond the pleasure. In contrast to when I was newly divorced, my relationship with masturbation was toxic. It was more a coping mechanism. I didnt respect it enough for me to actually find the healing and comfort which I was seeking at the time and which I now know it can give. Given my experiences of masrturbation in these contrasting periods of my life, I'm a strong believer that masturbation as a routine has done me wonders and I hope it can for many other women.
I hope you found my insights interesting despite it being quite personal. I'd love to hear how you view your relationship with masturbation. Maybe my next post could be exploring my exact masturbation routine? : )
Niamh x
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