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    I've just read this article in "Daily Mail". It can devastate women with horrendous consequences of loss of relationships and marriages. Apparently decreased testosterone production is a leading cause of loss of sexual desire.

    My ex-g/f told me when we began dating that she had an elevated testosterone level, which had opposite consequences. Sensations of perpetual desire for sex began at puberty. She became sexually active at 15. She was always horny, which caused her to want more sex. She had actually believed she was a nymphomaniac, a behavioral abnormality. She would routinely engage in risky sex; e.g., doing her high school b/f in her bedroom while her parents were down stairs. When she was 15, her parents left their innocent angel home for about 5 days. As soon as they left she called a high school boy she knew. They spent 5 days in her parents bed. She'd do a b/f between classes while in college. She's always had an elevated libido vis-a-vis her boyfriends. She'd have sex all night. It wasn't until she had a blood work analysis that was ordered by her endocrinologist that she was diagnosed with elevated testosterone. She's slowing now, but she ca still pull off all nighters.

    I've always thought that her wild sexual fantasies have evolved from her hyper libido that's caused by elevated testosterone. To this very day, she has a black stud fantasy in which at least one black stud with a huge package uses and abuses her like a per diem porn star. Not too long ago we watched her favorite porn: huge packaged black dudes banging the heck outta Anglo women.

    The point is a woman's hormone system can be causal of loss of sexual desire. A wise first move might be to a physician for diagnosis. It might be a treatable condition, which might mean preserving a relationship. The reality is no sex will almost always cause a dude to look for it elsewhere, which will usually cause the end of an otherwise wonderful relationship.

  • Originally posted by WaveRider View Post
    The point is a woman's hormone system can be causal of loss of sexual desire. A wise first move might be to a physician for diagnosis. It might be a treatable condition, which might mean preserving a relationship. The reality is no sex will almost always cause a dude to look for it elsewhere, which will usually cause the end of an otherwise wonderful relationship.
    This is true.... when I first met my wife 19 years ago she wanted it every night, and I struggled to keep up with her sexual demands..... now fast forward 19 years and I'm lucky if we have sex once every 2 weeks... I love my wife to bits and would never look for sex elsewhere
    She has just turned 50 and she is worried she maybe becoming menopausal.... I'm worried that her hormone system has been out of balance for over a year and she should consult her doctor

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    • The funny (not funny) thing is, my time here at WH has proven to me that this is truly as much of an issue for women as it is men. Additionally, in my group of girlfriends, it is not uncommon to hear one of them mention their husbands low sex drive. I agree that for both men and women, there can be hormonal causes. There can also be other non-hormonal medical causes that result from general unhealthiness.
      "Be what you're looking for."

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      • So far, only physiological reasons have been discussed; I'm guessing there can be psychological reasons as well. I can only guess at what those are.

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        • At 45, my sex drive is stronger than ever I think. It's certainly not diminished. I'm healthier than I have been in years, and I'm also now in menopause, I believe. I'm still very interested, and enjoy it as much or more than ever. The experience has changed, but it's no less enjoyable.

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          • Kitty, i think you're not alone in feeling that way: the sexiest women I've known have been at least your age!
            I'm sure that overall health and general self-confidence have much to do with it - or everything to do with it.

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            • Low Testosterone and Low Dopamine are linked to low libido. Also, just general hormone imbalance messes with sex drive. Testosterone can lower with age so getting a prescription for post-menopausal women may be possible, otherwise DHEA is a precursor to testosterone and you can get it anywhere. There's something called l-dopa that's used for dopamine increase. I hope this helps!!

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              • Originally posted by atskitty2 View Post
                At 45, my sex drive is stronger than ever I think. It's certainly not diminished. I'm healthier than I have been in years, and I'm also now in menopause, I believe. I'm still very interested, and enjoy it as much or more than ever. The experience has changed, but it's no less enjoyable.
                This is true of many women in the 35+ age range. One of the reasons I find 40+ women to be so attractive. My guess is most men past 50 start to lose their drive.

                Kitty would you date a guy 10 years younger than you?

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                • I have and would again.
                  I've dated older men also.

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                  • One possible factor in the increased libido some (many?) women at or beyond menopause have is knowing there's no more risk of pregnancy. Just a guess on my part.

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                    • I believe that women stop wanting sex because the desire goes away for the man. Desire disappears when the woman ceases to view her man as a High Value Male. In other words, she loses all respect for him, in all likelihood because he acts like our culture tells him to act - like a woman but with a penis.

                      One common myth is that desire can somehow be negotiated, like buying a car. No sex? Empty the dishwasher more. Help her with the laundry. Go to counseling and work out a deal. Do you REALLY want sex from someone because they have agreed to it as part of a deal? Screw that!

                      Were you helping her with the laundry back in college when she wanted to hump your brains out? Did you negotiate a deal when she let you remove her panties with your teeth? Didn’t think so!

                      We don’t have sex any more, most likely because I don’t desire my wife and she doesn’t desire me. But I’ll be ****ed if I would ever have sex with her because she felt obligated, or somehow felt sorry for me. That would be worse honestly than hiring a two-bit *****.



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                      • Originally posted by TXguy View Post
                        I believe that women stop wanting sex because the desire goes away for the man.
                        We don’t have sex any more, most likely because I don’t desire my wife and she doesn’t desire me.

                        that is too bad ^


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                        • We’ve been married 29 years. Part of it is that men are very visually oriented, and a 50 year old’s body isn’t quite the same as an early 20s hard body. That’s not being critical, just the facts. I’m sure she probably feels the same.

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                          • Originally posted by TXguy View Post
                            We’ve been married 29 years. Part of it is that men are very visually oriented, and a 50 year old’s body isn’t quite the same as an early 20s hard body. That’s not being critical, just the facts. I’m sure she probably feels the same.
                            well my wife is 50 and her body may not be what it was 19 years ago when we met, but I still love it and still want to pleasure it as often as she will let me

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                            • This is one reason it's not a good idea to build a relationship on an image, or attraction only. There has to be something to sustain us when things change.

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