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  • Well, one thing I can't seem to stop doing is comparing my husband to my ex that I cheated with, and regret.
    Everytime I pull my husbands penisout and hold it in my hand, I feel guilty because I think about how longer and thicker my ex was. I can close my eyes and feel it in my hand.
    I can't seem to shake that thought.
    We use a sleeve now, intermittently.
    However when holding my husbands penis, I think of how he is smaller. It's not as exciting.
    It does not make me as excited as when I held my ex's larger penis. I compare everytime. I wish it would go away.
    I don't want my ex. It doesn't make me want to ho and cheat. However it does make me feel various things. Guilt, and a little angry that I can't be holding a larger penis.
    Now, It was most likely also more exciting just holding the ex's because we were an old thing. It was like new again. I now had something in my hand to compareto my husnand.
    I just hope anyone considering cheating with a larger ex, will see this and not do it.
    I had forgetten how the ex felt. Now, It will forever be etched in my mind. Especially how it looked and felt in my hand. How I couldn't even barely put my mouth on it. That excited me because I knew I was going to get a larger penis.
    I also don't make much noise with my husband. I moan with pleasure, here and there.
    However for the minute or so my ex was slowly thrusting, I couldn't help but make louder vocal noises because I was excited, it felt larger and more stimulating. It was like an out of breath feeling from making noises and trying to gasp for air because my exhalation with noise was longer than my air intake. Hard to explain, I had no control over it.
    I don't remember it being like that with the ex. Probably because I was with my smaller husband for so many years.

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    • Truthbombs4u,

      Most women prefer girth & length to the opposite. There is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with comparing. Men do it all the time. There is a lot wrong with talking to your husband about it. I'm sure that every time he has to affix an apparatus to his package to give you the feeling you desire, he's reminded of your fling with Mr. Large.

      Many years ago, while my friend & his wife & my ex were at a sports bar, my friend's wife told me that my friend was small & couldn't satisfy her. She wanted more. Then she hit on me. I lost all respect for her. She cheated on him many times before he yanked the plug on that relationship.

      Think and fantasize as you desire. Don't demean your husband due to something beyond his control.

      My ex-g/f has a huge mean streak. During her divorce, she yelled at her ex that he was the worst she's had. I politely told her that that was a horrible statement to say to any man, even if it were true (it was, according to her). Worse, she said it in front of her teenage son. The manner in which she said it made her look like she was promiscuous (she was). Soon after, her son called her the "W" word. She should've predicted consequences of her mean-spirited comment.

      I've never, ever demeaned a woman. I certainly would never criticize a woman for her physical appearance (small breasted) or bedroom performance.

      A side thought: **** shaming seems to be in en vogue or the meme of the moment. I think it reveals the true character (rotten) of the one airing private affairs. What happens inside of a bedroom ought to stay inside of a bedroom. There are exceptions that aren't **** shaming; e.g., forced sex. But what a woman might have done, who she's might've done, and how many she might've done is only her business. Revenge porn is worse.

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