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  • Can't get a fantasy out of my head

    I'm a happily married man and have known my wife for 20 years.... while our sex life is not as active as I'd like I still love my wife dearly and really look forward to and enjoy the times we do get intimate and make love. I've mentioned before about my scarf fetish and being tied up with scarves while she teases me. (see my previous thread) She is my soul mate

    but I keep having a recurring fantasy / dream that involves me masturbating another man and making them ejaculate.... I don't know what it is, or why I'm having this fantasy because I'm not gay and I don't find men attractive or anything and I certainly wouldn't want a man to put their member up my back passage..... but sometimes I dream / fantasise about slowly stroking a man, rubbing a handkerchief over their pen!s and making them ejaculate like porn star Peter North

    of course I've not mentioned this to my wife and I don't plan to, but I just can't get this fantasy out of my head sometimes...

    is their any cure for me or should I keep this to myself?

    I mentioned to my wife a couple of years ago about a fantasy I used to have where a dark skinned man with a very large member was pleasuring my her while I watched, but she just thought that was weird and laughed it off - I don't know how she would react if I told her about this fantasy.

    I'm worried that this is not normal for a happily married straight man to fantasise about something like this

  • Sexual frustration can manifest itself in many ways including what some people would consider taboo. In my opinion, given that you have nothing but a normal curiosity about being in a threesome, and/or seeing another man ejaculate, IMO you are only trying to raise your level of excitement. I am a straight woman. Have I ever wondered about being with a female? Yes, I have, but never to the point of doing anything about it. I have some gay friends. That's all they are and they don't figure in my imaginings. I have no attraction to them.

    What I may suggest is that you film yourself masturbating and to full fill that type of experience watch yourself later. It just may fulfill your fantasy with no harm being done. Who knows? Your wife may enjoy filming it for you and it could be a turn on for the both of you.
    That which we forget may as well never really happened.

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    • What Claret said. Great suggestions. We've all had "weird" fantasies at times. It's truly probably more about sexual dominance than it is about gender, specifically. I don't think I'd be too concerned about it unless you began wanting to act on it.
      "Be what you're looking for."

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      • Maybe you're doing for someone else what you want done for you...
        in other words you are providing relief that you so badly want., it comes to your fantasy as a male, because you're male...

        So, same as Claret said, I'm just adding detail essentially.

        I don't find it to be weird or anything to be concerned about.

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        • Originally posted by Claret View Post
          Sexual frustration can manifest itself in many ways including what some people would consider taboo. In my opinion, given that you have nothing but a normal curiosity about being in a threesome, and/or seeing another man ejaculate, IMO you are only trying to raise your level of excitement. I am a straight woman. Have I ever wondered about being with a female? Yes, I have, but never to the point of doing anything about it. I have some gay friends. That's all they are and they don't figure in my imaginings. I have no attraction to them.
          ...
          What a **very** perceptive analysis!

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          • Hi, Muffin. Probably everyone had strange fantasies. Do not judge strictly, but I will tell my opinion. You wrote that you know your wife for 20 years. This is a long time! Most likely you need a variety. We are looking for and thinking about something new only when something old does not suit us. Consult a psychologist, this is normal. If you do not want, you can try pills to improve the feelings of your little friend. To save time searching, leave you a resource. Do not resent my opinion! Good luck
            Last edited by jns; 02-26-2019, 02:35 AM. Reason: Outbound links are not allowed.

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