[Guest]

Yes, he might have been raised by hyenas and just not know any better!

But even that's not an excuse!

Give the guy a chance - one chance - and tell him how it makes you feel; but it's a respect issue, and if he won't show you respect in public that's a really bad sign. It's not asking very much to pay attention only to the woman you're with, and it's not that hard to do.

Bam.

[dolphinlefty]

That sounds a little creepy. I would have the same issue with my boyfriend is I wasn't gawking at the same girls as he is. I am not sneaky about it though. See a lady running down the beach in a thong, heck yes I'm staring!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

hyenas!!! Dear me, lol...

Na, I was thinking ,perving at neighbours, locker rooms, seeing women as meat.

Don't know, now I'm thinking worse things like, what does he look at on the Computer? Or, what's hidden in his draws?

It just sounds very, almost stalking .....women... scary really.

CW

[AlleyWay]

Every guys peeks once in a while. But at the sametime you have to be respectful. Have a talk with this guy and give him a chance if he really cares he'll come around.

[moonisis]

I could see an occasional look at an attractive woman being ok as all of us will see someone cute or pretty. It happens.

But doing that constantly would probably get on my last nerves. It would make me feel like I'm not good enough or something.

Maybe say something to him about it and how it makes you feel. If he gets defensive about it, ask him why he can't stop gawking at other women, especially if you are with him when he does it.

I know you're not supposed to play fire with fire, but try doing the same next time you go out and see what he does. Gawk at every guy that goes by and don't pay attention to him.

[Hopeless Dork]

For me, my guy had one incident where he stepped out of bounds and drooled all over some girl in my presense and my instant reaction (in my head) was oh just wait til the next time some guy says something to me when he's near (it happens sometimes) I am going to make him feel as awful as I feel right now.

That was my gut reaction. Then I thought about it. And I am not that way. I love making him feel good... when we are out he can rest assure my attention is on him and if a guy is being a jerk and hitting on me in front of him -- he KNOWS i'll ignore it and focus on him

As I thought it through ...I k new I was not going to change how proud I am of how much respect I show the man I love... and turn it into a game of who can make the other feel the m ost like c rap.

I don't advise making him jealous to get your point across -- if a guy needs that in order to understand how hurtful what he is doing is -- he is too stupid to be in a relationship with. Remind him he can go back to being single and be a creepy gawker all by himself that you don't need to be standing there next to him being 'that chick with a creepy drooling boyfriend'. He might just realize what a donkey's butt he's being.