[sarahlee20]

Thinking about all of this, of ending a relationship can be incredibly hard - you feel so much pain. There's not only the grief from losing someone important in your life, but the pain of seeing your hopes and dreams of a future life together disappear too. Sometimes it is the hardest part, having to totally readjust your view of how you saw your life unfolding in the next 5 to10 years. you can't see into the future and it's scary!

But you are on the right path, you are strong - strong enough to be asking the right questions and really THINKING before getting married. Too often people just fall into the moment, thinking they'll make it on love alone, hoping that the future will be brighter than the present, but that's not how it works. And you're smart enough to know this, to see this before you've gone too far... unfortunately, it doesn't make this process any easier. It hurts, and it should. But keep thinking about this, find your truth, and know that the hurt does not last forever.

This post touched me the post...Hit the nail on the head so head, so to speak. It's EXACTLY how i feel about the sitution if you can tell from my posts and threads i'm alot more mature than most young women my age...I think anyway. I think the fear of the future and him not being around is what scares me of ending it.

[stressed]

We interpret 'omens' based on our current state of mind and feelings. If you already had doubts about your relationship and lost the ring then you have your connection and a subconscious excuse to leave him. If you had no doubts you would only feel bad about losing it and it wouldn't go any further than that.

When we got our rings I found that mine was 2 times larger than I wanted it to be. I only had it on for a day, then we had to give it back and I was without it for a week. I felt bad about it at first (it still feels 1 size larger) but no matter what problems we've had I never made the connection. It only taught me to be more careful when I order rings (I've never got the right ring size anyway).

[stressed]

Here's the deal. The real thing. You lost your ring for a reason. It could be it was loose, you were careless, someone was dishonest. You may have a subconscious desire to lose it. The real telling point is the interpretation you put on it.

Exactly.