[WildChild]

Sounds like you need to cut your losses. This is unlikely to get better. Even if he weren't probably cheating, the accusations and suspicions on you are very unhealthy. What a set up; make unfounded accusations and use them to justify screwing around. You can't win with that set up.
Why would he need 4 mobiles? I have 2, one personal and one as a business number, keeping track of any more than that gets crazy.

Why not let him be telling the truth? He said he was single. Make it so.

[Messymiss]

It definitley sounds to me like he set up the accusations of you cheating so as he could have an reason for him to cheat. He probably charms all the women the way he charmed you. He sounds like a real prickle to me and this is a very prickly situation. I rather be alone than with this creep. I feel sorry for any woman that ever comes across him.

[pussnboots]

It certainly is not lust. It has got to a point where the physical side of the relationship is pretty much non existent. This just adds to his insecurity. Last night my daughter asked where i was. His reply was she is probably texting her other boyfriend! To me he crossed the line with that.

[Colorado]

Get rid of him now - I know its a bad thing to generalise, but the old statement "once a cheater, always a cheater" is kind of true; at least from my perspective, I've seen how some of the guys I have known do this to their wives. I know there are probably some who don't deserve the generalization, and if they err once, they just need the "wake-up call" before they realize they are about to lose something they dont want to lose and come to their senses.
Personally my wife and I have an aggreement - she cheats and it's over NO CHANCES, not staying together for the kids - NADA - ITS OVER! ...And EXACTLY the same thing goes for me! If I ever did it, I would be out on my backside, and rightfully so.

I think you know that after all the deception, hiding and such, it's obvious that he can't be trusted.

You deserve better!
Kick him to the curb BEFORE he does it to you. It's only a matter of time.

[Allie602]

It is very bad for your daughter to be exposed to this. This alone should have resulted in him being thrown out of your house. Your daughter comes first remember, not this man who doesn't respect you and now has drawn you child into this. You are her mother, you stand between her and the rest of the world, you are her protector, the only one she can depend on. Do not let her down for a worthless man.

Maybe it would help to view loneliness is a choice - you have a child; so many woman long for a child, you can't be lonely if you make your life about looking after her well being. If your actions show you are a good mother you will attract a good man. I'm not accusing you of being a bad mother. Your child is thriving so, you cannot be a bad mother. But, can you see that this man disrespects you and your precious child in your own home!!! That is simply not done so don't allow it.

Kick his azzzz out and let the stupid woman who is degrading herself by sending him sexy text when he does noting for her but keep as a side thrill. What do you care, they deserve each other. Just stand back and enjoy the comedy of clowns. He'll cheat on her too. Just smile to yourself and be glad you got rid of him.

You made a mistake, I don't think you will make it again. Children are resilient if you intervene quickly and explain things to her. Promise her that you will not allow chaos to enter your house again and you will keep her safe.

[pussnboots]

You have all been so wonderful and so supportive through all this. Thank you!

I have decided that for the sake of my sanity and the total disrespect for my daughter and I he is getting the boot...BIG TIME! Something I should have done months ago instead of letting it drag on. He has his good qualities but the bad is out waying the good now and starting to make me feel worthless. Life with my daughter on our own is certainly more attractive to me than how it is at the moment. I know I can be a strong independent women and would certainly rather go it alone than feel the way I feel about things. There is not one day that goes by without me thinking about them and how deceitful they have been. "She" can't even look at me now after I sent her a very diplomatic email saying that I know what's been going on. Of course I have not had any response. My work life has been a misery for long enough and it is time to move on and take some control of things. He can go find another hotel to live at only I am sure the next one will expect him to pay some rent!

Once again, you have all been fab! BIG THANK YOU AND ((HUGS))

[Allie602]

Pussnboots glad you came to a resolute decision, you'll see you will be happy and draw a happy good men to you. Just one thing your last post indicated that he was financially unstable and did not carry his weight while living at you house. When a man is financially unstable, he is not ready for a serious relationship. Don't let your daughter see the model of the weak untrustworthy boy man.

There is a really good book by Steve Harvey, "Think like a man act like a woman". He is a comedian but he gives very good information on how men think. He says that If you are in a relationship with a man who is an adult and going nowhere then it's a transitional relationship according to Harvey. When the man gets his s*** together, he will find the woman he really wants to be with. I think the message is never get into a relationship with a man who is not where he wants to be in life unless you are looking for something temporary. Never help a man out financially unless you are married to him and it's temporary. Women who get into relationship with men to help them out financially are seen as mothers not gf,. He acts like a bad boy and expects mom to help him still. when he finds someone he is really attracted to he exits.