[WildChild]

I have a few close girlfriends, but I met my soul sister in 3rd grade and we have been inseperable sisters ever since. I moved schools and ended up in her school for 3rd grade. We met my first day when she invited me to sit next to her. From that day on we were sisters. She was the only black kid in our class, but neither of us really ever saw our differences, we'd dress like twins on field trip days and proudly sport our Best Friend necklaces. Her parents decided to move away our 5th grade year. They thought she'd be better off in a bigger city where she could have more friends of her race and feel like she fit in more. Talk about complete devastation. We wrote each other letters daily, had our families driving to meet each other on the weekends, and finally it got to the point that she and I were both so unhappy that her family got their old jobs back and moved back.

We went all through school together, then rented a house and lived together all through college. A year after college she moved to CA (about 2500 miles away from me), but it hasn't even put a dent in our friendship and if anything we're closer than we ever were. We talk every day. A year after her move I "accidentally" found out she is bisexual and was involved with a woman. She feared what I would think of her. But again, it never put a dent in our friendship. Now I just ask her very inappropriate questions and we laugh. I understood because of where we grew up that she had never felt comfortable to just be herself. On Martin Luther King Jr day last year, I'll never forget what her mom said: "I knew MLK's dream had come true when I saw you and BD become sisters". Unconditional love is what I have with that girl and always always will. That is priceless beyond measure.

LOL this delighted me. Our family were always the neighborhood weirdos. My mother was very active in the Native American community and we had all these long haired Indians at our house and my dad's best freind was black, at a time when that was uncommon. I guess we enlivened the neighbor's otherwise deary, religion laden lives.

But what really made me smile was remembering when my daughter was in 2nd grade, I think I told this story here before but what the heck... I was having lunch in the school cafeteria and there were two little girls sitting across from us and they were just full of giggles. I started talking with them, they told me they were best freinds and no one could tell them apart because they were dressed alike. I commented that I had noticed that their hair was fixed the same (giggles) and they were wearing the same tops (more giggles) and had the same necklaces (wiggles and giggles). They were just so delighted with the idea that they were twins. One was black and one was white.

Thank you for drawing up that sweet memory BD.

[Ashlee T.]

WC that makes my heart smile. Your story reminds me so much of my sister and I. I'd have my mom out at Walmart the night before a special day trying to find the SPECIFIC boots my friend was going to wear so our entire outfits would match. We too felt like we looked like twins and that people might mistake us for sisters. She, being a very dark skinned black girl with numerous braids and me, the fair skinned freckle faced white girl with auburn hair. It's funny thinking about it now. Everyone knew we were soul mates, the teachers even worked things around every year so we'd be in the same class....we never caused a problem, just wanted to be together. I can remember the year her family moved away, and on the weekends when my mom would drive up there to pick her up, she and I would ride in the back seat together all the way home, snuggled up, her head on my shoulder, we were just so happy to get to be together again. Every moment was priceless. And still is.

[WildChild]

That is so wonderful! Not everyone finds those special freinds or lovers and keeps them. It truly is a blessing.

[Agony_Aunt]

Wow, this thread really has me thinking back.

A girl I was very best friends with up until 14, we use to dress the same and even went and got our hair cut the same way once.
We don't talk at all anymore, although she works in the local shop.

But now, after nearly 5 more teenage years, I've learned who my real friends are, ad glad to say that they are still my best friends today.
I have a wide circle of friends, of male's and female's. But there is only 2 of the girls who I would talk to about anything and everything. The rest are still good friends but not that close. I've always got on better with male's though and I think thats because I just have 5 brothers, no sister's. So I can kind of relate more to male's!
My mother is also my best friend, in a sisterly way.

I really can't imagine not having my best friends.

[JustHormonious]

BD and WC - Your stories really inspired me so I got on Facebook this morning and looked for my long lost best friend. I think I found her in Mississippi, it's been 36 years since we've had contact with each other. I sent her a PM, hopefully it's the right person. I am really excited!!

[sourpuss]

I've only had a few close female friends in my life and not until well into my late 20s. I don't think I had a single female friend at all until I was about 22. Now that I'm in my 30s and I'm around more mature adult women, I have 2 or 3 female friends that I feel I can tell them anything.
My boyfriend always gives me a hard time about it too. He thinks we just get together and trash men, haha. (sometimes he's right....but that's his fault )

[Ashlee T.]

BD and WC - Your stories really inspired me so I got on Facebook this morning and looked for my long lost best friend. I think I found her in Mississippi, it's been 36 years since we've had contact with each other. I sent her a PM, hopefully it's the right person. I am really excited!!

Awesome!!! I can't wait for you to hear back from her.

I've only had a few close female friends in my life and not until well into my late 20s. I don't think I had a single female friend at all until I was about 22. Now that I'm in my 30s and I'm around more mature adult women, I have 2 or 3 female friends that I feel I can tell them anything.
My boyfriend always gives me a hard time about it too. He thinks we just get together and trash men, haha. (sometimes he's right....but that's his fault )

Hehe....of course it is!!!

[Texinator]

I can honestly say that I have not had a real female best friend, since grade school. All of my best friends are male and have been for the majority of my life.

I've noticed there are many women who are closer to men and have more male friends than female ones. If it helps any, I tend to be closer to women and have more female friends.

...though I've noticed they all tend to be similar - most seem to have a bit of a tomboy streak in them, for example - and they're never the extremely girly princess types.

[sarahlee20]

I am very blessed. I never had any real close friends or best friends other than my family. I didn't have a real best friends/friend til my brother married his wife and now we're like best friends. I've only known her a yr and a half but it's like i can tell her anything. We're real close. I'll be 23 next week and she's 24.