[chesty2141]

I can see it hard for her to have infadelity in our relationship being that she really doesn't have time, but there is the posibility that she is wanting to look whats out there. I don't see why she would push so hard for me to propose to her then though if that is the case. When I say she pushes for it she PUSHES for it. She makes it known to me and everyone around that she wants to tie the knot. I just am not getting what a healthy marriage needs from her.

[chesty2141]

I can't see infadelity from her being that realistically she doesn't really have the time. It can be possible that she is looking to see whats out there though. It just doesn't make since though because she really pushes that she wants to marry me very badly and I get that I havn't yet all the time. She makes sure all our friends know it and I know it too. Problem is that she does not display the needed things in a relationship for a healthy marriage.

[Mes T]

Sounds to me like the girl she left behind in college is still there, and potentially coming back in full force. How would you feel about taking a "break" from the relationship, or distancing yourself in some way? Maybe give her the independence and space she needs to do whatever it is she's doing... Might mean ending the relationship down the line, I don't know. But it doesn't sound to me like the two of you having a conversation about her behavior is going to make her want to stop partying.

[chesty2141]

There is a problem with that though. Her and her son would have no where to go. I will not let him just go anywhere. Her friend lives in an unsafe area and I refuse for him to live a life of jumping house to house. She may want to party but in real perspectives she is still a mother and needs a safe bed to put him in at night. I love her but I couldn't let her take him out of what he knows as home just to put him where ever she decides will do for the night. I am going through that already with my 2 daugthers and about to gain custody of them for that exact reason. I consider him as my own son and I am known to him as daddy. I wouldn't know what to do with that situation but if she decides to run off on me I can't risk my kids to try and save hers from her selfishness.

[chesty2141]

We have both risked and invested A LOT in this relationship for the fact of how serious we were about each other. We are both in a position where we need each other physically and financially. If she leaves she wouldn't be able to keep up with bills or have a place to go. I would have to move to find a place in my budget alone to survive as well. We may not be married but live the lifestyle as if we already are.