[openminded]

my boyfriend and i have been together for a long time, and have a VERY active and exclusive sex life. when i met him, i was practically a virgin, and he has taught me a great deal. now, don't get me wrong, i love our sex lives, he can get me to orgasm multiple times a night, and we have so much fun in the bedroom together, not to mention we have a great relationship outside the bedroom. But, I'm kind of curious in trying new things, like bondage. it may sound silly, but im afraid of proposing it to him, because im afraid that if he doesn't want to try it, he will get the wrong idea about how i feel about our sex life now. has anyone gone through something like this and could give me some advice??

[Yogigirl]

Go ahead, bring it up to him...it will probably really excite him actually...the thought of something different...and just pose it to him in the way you just wrote your post...that you are very satisfied with him...he takes care of your needs sexually...but that you think it would be fun to explore each others "doable" fantasies....and find out if he has any as well....
Just don't forget...that some things are better left in the fantasy world...don't get too carried away!
Good luck to you!

[seashoremaine]

Maybe instead of saying "lets do some bondage", in the heat of the moment tell him you want him you have been a naughty girl and you want him to tie your hands to head board of your bed (use a scarf or bandanna)... Shwing! He will eagerly comply.

[rcoreyus]

Years ago (back when we had a good relationship), my wife gave me a box for my birthday. When I opened it, there were 4 long scarves inside, and she had a wicked grin. Still my favorite present ever.

Safety notes:
1. keep a pair of scissors by the bed - to be sure you can release whoever is tied up quickly in an emergency.

2. If you are engaging in any play where someone pretends to be resisting (not necesarially part of bondage at all btw), have a safeword - a magic phrase that means "really stop", not pretend stop. There have been really tragic misunderstandings with couples who didn't use this.

If you are really nervous about asking, you can try a half-joke. Next time you make some trivial mistake (not a real one), you can say, "well I guess you'll just need to spank me so I don't do it again". Gives him a chance to either laugh, and ignore it, or laugh and suggest that he is going to do that right now.

[Little]

My boyfriend doesn't like bondage. That makes me kind of sad. I even blurted out, "What, not even like, scarves? To tie me up?" and he disagreed with it. I might have to work on him about it, though ...
Safe words are an absolute MUST. Mine is "boat." I got it from Dr. Sue :3 Pick one that you can think of; I chose boat because it's the example Dr. Sue used and I knew I'd be able to remember it.
Good luck in getting tied up XD

[rcoreyus]

Can even have 2 safe-words.

Yellow: "I'll never submit to your fiendish wishes.....yellow "my left foot is going asleep", green. Basically means don't get out of character, but something needs fixing.

and
RED: means stop now, no more games, something is seriously wrong.

Also - the "top" gets to use the safewords as well - and may need them in case they are worried by the "bottom's" behaviour.

Finally - if someone doesn't like something SAY SO. One of my problems in my relations ship was that my spouse really didn't like something I was doing, but never told me - never even hinted at it, until many months later.