[rcoreyus]

Had a shocking experience recently. I was at a out-of-town meeting, and several people had brought family. One of the men about my age (mid 40s) had brought his college-age daughter, and we talked for a bit. Now I'm married and don't fool around, and I also find relationships with a big age gap to be somewhat disturbing, so I didn't say or do anything inappropriate. But I did think she was rather cute.

Later I found out she is 13!. THIRTEEN!. I'm still horrified. I start to understand the people who are accused of sex crimes against children who claim they "didn't know how old she was". Apparently it can be really hard to tell sometimes.

[sourpuss]

It doesn't help that girl now days are acting and dressing to appear old at younger and younger ages.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I must be wicked, because I laughed after reading that.

I could picture your face, when you found out her age.

Agree, totally with Sourpuss, how are guys meant to determine age these days when even Modelling Agencies are trying to pic "13" year olds to be the new famous face of something, "which by the way" has kicked up a stir, but she's only a child, being subjected to the world of .....

Even the fasion for 13 year olds are really designed tight fitting, outlining their figures and the 18 year olds dress in the same fashion, it seems.

How old are you? 18. mmm... they even get into night clubs, well i read that some celebrity took their 13 year old daughter there once.

You'll get over it, Rcoryeus, flirt with 25+ only then you'll be safe.

[rcoreyus]

I'll get over it - but its been a week and I still feel like I'm either an idiot or a pedophile (or maybe both). I actually don't flirt with anyone under about 35 - I'm very touchy about the power imbalance / giving wrong impression.

I guess I'm not alone though. I was in Tokyo with a male friend of mine, and he commented that he couldn't tell if he was supposed to be attracted to the women he saw in this area, or if maybe they were MUCH too young. Japan is particularly tricky, it seems that when they are out at night, all women from about 12 to 30 dress to look 18. AARRGH!

[Little]

Now, now, Anon, you know better :P
I think the problem here, and this is inclusive of the parents, is that these young girls are messed up in the head. They're bombarded with images every day that they don't realize that they need to GROW into; they're not ready to be those images at age 13.
That isn't an excuse for a pedophile, of course, though it's understandable that a mentally stable man would be confused (sexually or otherwise) by a provocative young girl. But just as it's a consenting adult's responsibility not to take advantage of a mentally ill adult (all flippancy aside, it would make me extremely uncomfortable to know I was having sex with a crazy man) it's their responsibility to not take advantage of the very confused mind and body of a teenager.
I think your reaction to finding out the girl was 13 is proof enough you're not a pedo :P

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Hahah, aw, I wouldn't say that picture broke any rules or laws... Though I'll admit it's borderline. It is funny though. And it highlights a serious point, people don't often focus on the difference between a 15 year old and a 10 year old, it's just blanket "you're f'd in the head".

croreyus, you're so paranoid, haha. Though I suggest that you use a data shredder to get rid of the image from your cache, if the police conviscated your hard drive they'd find it if you cleared the cache :P...

[maz33]

Yay thanks for making me look at that anon, really appreciate it...

[rcoreyus]

I have some reason to be paraonid - how can I put this... my income is provided by the government, if they wish they can monitor anything I do online. Clearing the browser cache is not a way to hide data - that is impossible - the internet transaction has already been recorded - but might demonstrate an honest attempt to get rid of the image.

Hahah, aw, I wouldn't say that picture broke any rules or laws... Though I'll admit it's borderline. It is funny though. And it highlights a serious point, people don't often focus on the difference between a 15 year old and a 10 year old, it's just blanket "you're f'd in the head".

croreyus, you're so paranoid, haha. Though I suggest that you use a data shredder to get rid of the image from your cache, if the police conviscated your hard drive they'd find it if you cleared the cache :P...

[Guest]

back to the original point, it does seem like they are more grown up, or at least act it, than in the past. dropped my son off at college a few weeks ago, and I know the freshman girls didnt look, dress, or act like that when I went to college in the 80s. Society sexualizes girls much earlier now than it used to - everything from the clothing that everyone wears, to shows on TV, to even how some of the middle school teachers dress themselves! BTW, anyone seen the ABC Family show life of the american teenager? OMG, more like playton place with adult themes that I know werent discussed in the 70s when I was a teenager.

[lovemyself1]

its hard these days...i have a 14 yr old niece, i took her shopping for school when she was 13 along with her friend (also 13) they were buying thongs!! that just grossed me out. i was not wearing them at 13...my parents would have had a fit! they grow up so quickly these days.
really its not your fault, dont beat yourself up about it. many many people make that mistake. i think these young girls want to be looked at in that way. which just shows what society and hollywood has done the the next generation. kids cant be kids anymore. sad, sad, sad.