[ThexMrs]

I've never had my boyfriend do that per say. He has asked me to stop so he doesn't "cream" and we can have sex to finish but he's never complained about it ever. In fact, he says that I'm amazing.

You shouldn't look at him as being bossy. You're doing it for his pleasure so don't you want to do it the way he wants you to? If you're trying to please him then you should listen to how he likes it.

You wouldn't want him railing you even though you said you didn't like it like that would you? It's all about communication.

[Guest]

DON'T CHEAT! no matter how you feel don't do it. just leave him if that's what you are gonna do.

...that's great if he treats you well. maybe you can spruce up the bedroom time by acquiring some toys IF you aren't satisfied with the sex. i do commend you for sticking by your husband i wish you luck.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You guys are "new" at marriage.. Young... Well I don't know how old he is.... But the marriage is young... And, it's not like you were experienced before him sweet, it's all new to you.

I think his attitude could be much better, in the way he wants you to "learn" about his body but also he needs to do the same back... "Bond" as you know, commit to knowing each other's bodies.

So, he needs to chill in how he lets you know what he likes or doesn't like, so explain that to him.

Cause, in addition to this, he also doesn't like you riding him, in-case you break him.. silly man.. You need to explain to him that your happy for him to "express" but both ways, tell you what he likes about what your doing, as well... And, ask you what you like... equal... street....

It reminds me of "puppys" always being told off, and then cuddled when they are cute, but don't they also get "good girl" haha, you know what I mean.

CW

[rcoreyus]

Well its an interesting question. Lets say you have a perfect relationship except for the sex. Lets also say that you have done absolutely everythigng you can think of to make it better, but your partner just isn't interested. You are left with 3 choices:

1. Leave the person you love (and in some cases have married)

2. Live a life without, or almost without sex, and spend you life resenting your partner for this

3. Cheat.

None of thee are good options.

yellowpiXi;s comments would be fine for many situations - where all that is missing is a bit of spice or excitement for the sex life. But in Elsa's case I think her husband simply isn't interested and doesn't care. He doesn't want his sex life spiced up.

DON'T CHEAT! no matter how you feel don't do it. just leave him if that's what you are gonna do.

...that's great if he treats you well. maybe you can spruce up the bedroom time by acquiring some toys IF you aren't satisfied with the sex. i do commend you for sticking by your husband i wish you luck.

[tasha_correa]

It sounds like he is trying to help you to better understand what he likes, but that he is WAY to controling about it and picky. Have you tried telling him that the way he talks to you while you are giving him oral is rude? He might not even realize it. It's amazing what a little chat might do for this situation. And if you have already talked to him about it, than stop giving it to him and maybe he will realize what has been going on and tone it down. Hope I helped.