[Guest]

Communication! You have to say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't tell him something and expect him to get your underlying meaning, for some reason they never do (I'm just kidding to all you men reading this!). We are very confusing creatures, but you just got to be honest with him when he asks.

I personally don't see the problem with him going with his family on vaca, especially if you didn't want to go or couldn't go. My DH has done things without me and vice versa. He's done fishing and hunting trips, gone backpacking with friends, etc. There's times I just can't or don't want to go, no biggie.

Don't be angry with him, he just did what you told him he could do. Enjoy yourself and your baby, they grow quickly!

Well said.

[Guest]

LOL..

That's venting for you.

Ahhh sweet, absense makes the heart grow fonder.

Run a bath, light some candles, put some rose petals in it.

Call your friends, have a girls movie night at your house....

Take the baby and go for a drive and see something you haven't seen before...

When he gets back tell him all the fun and excitement YOU had... and that you missed him..

You told him to go, lol and so he has...

Let him come back and see that your self efficient and actually had a good time yourself.

CW

YES! Now THAT is being proactive!

[bronzebunny]

Thanks for all your feed back but, does no one else think that this was a bit selfish on his part? He likes to live by the rule" if it just doesn`t suit right now dont do it" I feel like this was a case where going on vaca. did not suit this family. Would be different if it was a weekend but, a freakin week, where I have no kind of break...I would never do that to him( even if he said it was ok) I consider everyone elses ffeeling too. And not to mention I would not want to be away from my baby that long at this age. C`mon ladies...really? No one see my side???

[LanaBear]

It's not that we can't or don't see your side of things, but you told him to go, right? If you didn't want him to go, you should have told him. You can't beat around the bush with communication in a relationship. You need to be honest with him. Then if you really communicate with him, let him know how you are really feeling, tell him "No, I don't want you to go, it's too rough on me with the baby, etc." Then if he goes, that's a different issue.

As a mom, you are entitled to breaks too. Trust me, it's hard, I know. Sometimes, you have to force yourself to have a break. Take it, you deserve it. My oldest was 2 years old before I spent even 1 night away from him, I drove my mother mad by calling every 45 minutes. After that first night, she stopped answering her phone. But that was my doing, I never would have forced that on my husband by saying he couldn't go hunting with his dad for a week or backpacking with his friends. They view things a little differently. It's okay. Don't resent him for it, it won't do either of you any good.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sorry, I totally agree with all we've said, and LanaBear's last response re-inforcing that.

Nothing therefore, to add...

CW

[womenwise]

Ok, so theres some more problems here,and especially 6 months, gosh I would dump everything and just go, theres more to why you, didnt go wth him..You could have gone, given him the baby and had a s wm and gne shopping. Are you coping with the little one?? doesnt sound like you are, nothing is so important than the 2 f you, after all thats what made the 3 of you..
Go fix this, and put the love and talking back nto the relaionship..You pushed him away..