[Megha]

Hi,
I am 29 yrs old.I am getting married in june.Since many years i had fingered myself.I had penetrated my vagina very much since i was 20 yrs old....Now i am in very much confusion...will my hubby came to knoe after marriage....well i dont had connection with any men...still once he asked me whether i am vigin or not?i told him yes i am...now will he came to know abt this during first night....what should i do?????will it ruin my marriage life????plzz help me...

[jns]

You could visit a doctor to determine if your hymen is intact. If it is, he won't be uncertain and you won't have to worry about that. However, since you have been fingering yourself for a long time, it is logical to conclude that you may want to continue that activity after you are married. How you introduce your new husband to that concept and his openness to it will be much more important.

[LanaBear]

By 29, chances are, even if you haven't had sex, your hymen would already be broken. He will not be able to tell if you are a virgin or not by you simply fingering yourself.

However, I'm assuming, that in your culture a key indicator of virginity is bleeding. So, I think it depends on whether your new husband knows that, if you don't bleed, it doesn't mean you still are not a virgin. It's important for him to understand that your hymen could very well already be broke and not from sex.

Horseback riding, bike riding, falls, etc., those are all things that can break a hymen.

[stressed]

By 29, chances are, even if you haven't had sex, your hymen would already be broken. He will not be able to tell if you are a virgin or not by you simply fingering yourself.

However, I'm assuming, that in your culture a key indicator of virginity is bleeding. So, I think it depends on whether your new husband knows that, if you don't bleed, it doesn't mean you still are not a virgin. It's important for him to understand that your hymen could very well already be broke and not from sex.

Horseback riding, bike riding, falls, etc., those are all things that can break a hymen.

I agree with everything.