[rcoreyus]

Sorry about the typeo - minus sign error <g>.

Also - for most people in a good relationship, sex shouldn't ever feel like a chore. Even if you don't particularly feel like it at the moment, it should still be fun to do something quick for your partner. If you are really too tired / busy / sick, then turning someone down is fine. In general though, I think you should try to do something for them (hands, oral, whatever) so that they don't feel rejected.

This assumes that they are willing to do the same for you. If you are turning down sex because of other problems in the relationship, or because they are selfish lovers, that is a different issue.

[Allie602]

A blanket policy is probably not the way to look at sex in a relationship. For example, should a partner say yes to communication all the time? Yes, except... each individual has to decide when communication or sexual intimacy should happen. The decision depends on what a reasonable person would do - let say a partner wanted to talk every day from 3PM till 3AM every morning. Thats not reasonable, but if they were going thru a bad time it may be reasonable.
You have to use your judgement. In a relationship with a loving respectful partner, you come as close as you possibly can to meeting there needs for love-making. It is reasonable to be beg off if you are fatigued or ill, or sad, or stressed. If you have mismatched libidos compromise. If there are no major problems in the monogamous relationship, and you feel loved and cared for, and your partner is involved in your life then you will probably want to have sex frequently.
I have to add a note of caution since you didn't give much detail, - i'm not talking about sex on demand, that's not loving neither is refusal all the time. You have to make a reasonable compromise to meet the desire and comfort level of each party. You never get everything you want exactly when you want it but, if you love each other, you will be happy with what you decide to do.

[Julietpinkrose]

Nobody should say yes all the time, not a woman or a man.

Life can get stressful and its almost impossible to be in the mood 24/7 ......