[PandaPaws]

Why do you think he is doing this? If the reason doesn't go away, they he is likely to do it again. There is no point being in a relationship where your SO behaves only because they are worried that they will get "caught".

^ Great, great points.

And, yeah, if he cheated on you twice... not that ONCE is even close to okay, but twice? Really? He should have at least seen and felt how awful and wrong he was, that he wouldn't ever be tempted to do it again...

[hurt and confused]

This is why I feel he has no respect for me at all. He must feel its ok to do this, again and again, cause I forgive him and he feels his off the hook. So he does it again.

[Lunar Keiki]

He feels like you forgave him the last time..you'll forgive him again. No consequences. He gets his cake and eats it too.

[Ashlee T.]

This is why I feel he has no respect for me at all

Do you really WANT to be with someone like this? I think he's laid it out for you pretty clearly in black and white. Nows the time to stop focusing on what he's doing (because you already know......) and focus on what you're willing to sacrifice in order to stay with him.

It's common for married folks to feel temptations. But what usually stops the temptation is their love for their partner and the fear of what would happen if it was acted on. With him, he already knows what will happen, so he doesn't have that fear of losing you, the fear of having to get a divorce, the fear of NOT having his cake and eating it too. So, do you believe that a man that loves you would cheat on you? I don't. And do you believe that a man that respects you would cheat on you, and then continue to betray your trust? I don't.

Can you make your marriage "work" in the sense that you stay together? Sure. But I have a feeling you'll have to be willing to sacrifice your dignity, self respect, and happiness to do so.

[rcoreyus]

You are right, but at the point where people are not cheating because of fear of "consequences", there is already something very wrong.

He feels like you forgave him the last time..you'll forgive him again. No consequences. He gets his cake and eats it too.

[whit4488]

Hes curious, which means he is not satisfied with your relationship. Sure you could sit down and try to talk to him about it, but more than likely men who do this are trying to hide it...so he probably wont confess that hes unsatisfied with your relationship. Unfortunately this is the beginning red flag for relationship/marriage disaster. Unless he openly confesses and apologizes and wants it to end and ensure that he always makes you happy...then i would walk away from this guy. They just dont change their ways, if they want it, they will get it.

[mbradar2]

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