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She's the epitome of what a crazy mother does during the holidays. We always have to end up at her house so she will play stupid games, take "family" photos and at thanksgiving we have to sign this table cloth. All things to make sure her boys are always around. I HAVE A FAMILY TOO!

When someone makes a "bold statement" like that, it means that, that is the issue at hand. Yes you have a family too, it sounds as if your family don't do "joint family things together, that are fun", otherwise you wouldn't be calling your future MIL teh epitome of crazy... So she loves her family, wants to keep her family together and have them over for special occassion, still remembers them as children, and therefore keeps the same games going year after year, takes photos to remember the occasion, what's wrong with that? What's wrong with loving her boys?

I HAVE FAMILY TOO, if your fiance does not spend as much time? Or makes time to do "fun" things with your family how is that her fault?

If you were seeing them with him on happy occasions in my opinion you would not have written that.

And with the ring? She wasn't appauled, she didn't realise...It was her birthday and she got a replacement ring of one she had lost and was happy, when she realised it was simular or the same, she was shocked, different thing and shows it wasn't deliberate... She offered to change it there and then and you said no...So, I agree with her, 8 months later you end up bringing it up again in tears and she trys to assure you well the way I see it, it's a closer bond of us both, what a beautiful thing to say ?

I am not getting why it all bothers you unless you don't like the closeness that she offers, everyone, including you...

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I happen to subscribe to the belief that people are like dogs. Give them as inch, they'll take a mile. Life if full of reprocussions. Being an evil MIL demands an equal reaction.

You are intitled to your own opinion, however, putting dogs and humans in the same catagory? Shheeeez I am with Little.

Respectable "people/humans" do not take a mile if given an inch, they say thank you for what was done for them....Life is full of good and bad... This "Mother-in-law" as the OP has described her? Is not at all evil, nothing was done deliberately she offered to take the ring back the next day, and the OP said no it's okay....She is not evil, for wanting to love her family and have them over for special occasions and "not wanting" to let go of her kids, as she remembers them young, kids.. She is not evil for wanting family photos... She is not evil, for trying to bond with her future DIL, by making a gesture of bonding now, via those rings, some 8 months later.

And your comment above on it demands equality? EVIL to EVIL? WT? So *** for tat, you are evil so I am going to be evil back, well that will get you along way in life in my opinion, not...

It sounds as if in this post especially, you are basing things on your own life, in other posts, 1 of which I've deleted, there is anger and rudeness , maybe you should start a thread and lets us know what is bothering you in your life, and see if we can help you Joey......

[JoeyB]

You are intitled to your own opinion, however, putting dogs and humans in the same catagory? Shheeeez I am with Little.

Respectable "people/humans" do not take a mile if given an inch, they say thank you for what was done for them....Life is full of good and bad... This "Mother-in-law" as the OP has described her? Is not at all evil, nothing was done deliberately she offered to take the ring back the next day, and the OP said no it's okay....She is not evil, for wanting to love her family and have them over for special occasions and "not wanting" to let go of her kids, as she remembers them young, kids.. She is not evil for wanting family photos... She is not evil, for trying to bond with her future DIL, by making a gesture of bonding now, via those rings, some 8 months later.

And your comment above on it demands equality? EVIL to EVIL? WT? So *** for tat, you are evil so I am going to be evil back, well that will get you along way in life in my opinion, not...

It sounds as if in this post especially, you are basing things on your own life, in other posts, 1 of which I've deleted, there is anger and rudeness , maybe you should start a thread and lets us know what is bothering you in your life, and see if we can help you Joey......

Ok, so I over-stepped my bound with the word "evil'. I take that back.