[Sunlight72]

Hello Foxy11,
I hope you are doing alright (maybe not happy yet, or comfortable, but at least feeling like you are more of a director in your life, and not lost).

How are you? If you don't feel like replying, or are busy in real life, it's fine; I just wanted to let you know I care and wish you well.

Best Wishes,
Sunlight

[Foxy11]

Hi there Sunlight27,

Thank you for your message, It means a lot and is very much appreciated

I'm not too bad. Still slightly confused but dealing with it in a roundabout way. I really can't tell you how much your first post helped me. I needed someone to say out loud the way I knew I was portraying the situation. I really believed it was something happening to me that i couldn't stop. i know that it was because it was easier for me to believe this than face the fact I was doing everything myself. I really can't thank you enough. Honesty can be harsh and at first I was offended reading it. Once I took in what it said I started viewing everything in a different way (actually being honest with myself)

We have spoken about how we feel about each other and now know where we stand. We are going to remain good friends, as we always have been. We both agreed we will always be there for one another to talk to listen when we need and agreed we need to get our own relationships sorted out. Fortunately the times we have spent together as a group have been comfortable and as if nothing happened.

In all honesty i do have feelings towards him that I can't seem to push away. However when I have sat and thought about why, I now know its because i know he deserves better than to be treated the way he is.

I do still feel lost about somethings. The fact that I enjoy spending time with my friend and always thoroughly enjoy her company, but also resent her for what she did to him and the way she speaks to him i find horrendous and it upsets me that she thinks its ok to do this. I have realised it is not my problem to solve and although I'm there to listen to him when he needs, I don't give my opinion or tell him what he should do anymore. All have said is that he needs to make a decision about what he wants. He seems stuck between routine and doing what he knows is best.

I can't seem to work out why I enjoy being around her so much and yet hate the way she seems to think her selfish behaviour is ok! That is very confusing to me that I feel this way about her.

Thank you for your kind wishes, it really does mean a lot.
foxy x