[Winged_Muse]

I do go out, I go get my hair done, I get my tattoos, go have girls days with a few of my friends still around. The entire time though, he's constantly bugging me. I can't spend any time away from him without him asking what I'm doing. I have to tell him every where I go, he gets annoyed if I go more places than I say I do. I can't even relax by myself if I take a bath in the evening or anything like that. He teases constantly that I'm talking to my "other boyfriend" if I'm talking to my friends or even family members and I don't tell him who I'm talking to. It's all fine and good if he wants to know but sometimes it gets really old.

[Ashlee T.]

Girl, you know how I feel about the hair thing. I don't think he did anything wrong there. He's not required to like your new hair color. And not required to lie to his mom about how he feels about it. I recently cut bangs (big mistake...lol) and my boyfriend minced no words that he didn't like them on me. And he said something similar, " you're still beautiful. I just like you better without bangs." No big deal. He was right. LOL.

But I think it's all so much more than that. We could get hung up on the minor details, but the fact of the matter is plainly and simply: You're NOT happy. And once a person comes to that realization, then EVERYTHING, even the little stuff is going to irritate you and add to your lists of "reasons to leave". I will say this, this is YOUR life and while I don't advocate selfishness..... it is the only life you'll get. If YOU aren't happy, then it's up to YOU to make yourself happy......whatever that means for you. If that means leaving, leave. Know what I mean?

[Winged_Muse]

I know he's not happy either. He says he is but he isn't. I'm good at reading energies and I know when something is off. Even this morning before he left for work I knew he wasn't happy. He gives me empty threats all the time regarding leaving, then showing me he was looking at apartments for himself in another part of the state telling me he's "Serious this time." regarding things being worked out. I'm not trying to be selfish but no, I'm not happy and I've come to realize that more and more as the more recent months have progressed.

[atskitty2]

You're both unhappy...so why are you both staying in this, when one or both of you have basically no willingness to try to work through it? Leaving is hard-breaking out of the comfort zone and changing your whole life is hard.

I'd encourage you also to break this habit of talking to your family about your relationship. Speak with a counselor, pastor, or pastor's wife - someone more capable of approaching from neutral perspectives. In your future, be mindful of that. If they're the only ones you have to talk to - opt for a counselor or come here

I do think that he is unhappy, and he's clinging to hope that this will work, he's insecure, lacking trust because he knows how unhappy you are, and that makes him very vulnerable. He knows you're probably going to end this. If he really loves you, that probably terrifies him. I think that's why he's a constant presence via text or call when you're away. And for you, you're so desperately needing space that, probably any contact, even one message seems like a huge drag on your energies. He's making threats about leaving also, trying to scare you into making a move, one way or another. He probably hopes it makes you want to stay, BUT he probably wants some peace too - living this way is not pleasant to him either, and he'd rather you leave than continue this miserable day to day. Does that make any sense?

I think it's just a matter of when you're ready to make the leap.

[Popcorn&Candy]

I'd heed atskitty2's advice. She is a wise woman.

Why live in misery? You don't have to live that way: you don't have to sacrifice your happiness to stay in a painful relationship.

I wish you all the best, though.

[Joni_McCray]

I feel you are just fade up, else you will decide to work things out, you'll be surprised when realizing yours is better than many, however you should always know that your happiness is all that matters and sometimes you gotta give in much to expect much in return, its not weakness, its wisdom. What are your approaches, how do you handle situations with him? The relationship might just be waiting for a wise step from you. Winners don't quit and quitters don't win... it rains everywhere.