[vm_babygirl]

i am 14 and am sexually active most of the time it is unprotected i want birth control but i cant talk to my mom about it because she is against it but i dont want to be left unprotected how can i get it with out my mom knowing!!!

[Daisie]

Girl GO TO THE DOCTOR!! what are you waiting for?? If you don't want your mother to know then use a condom, why aren't you anyway?

Think about this, you don't want to talk to your mom, but what would you do if you get pregnant? or if you get an STD?

I think you're too young for birth control, I became sexually active at 14 too and started birth control at 16 but we always used condom with or without the pill, that's important too, specially if you are so young.

How long have you been dating? do you trust him enough to be having unsafe sex?

[oliveuphoria]

There should be plenty of free clinics to get tested wherever you live. You can look them up online at home or the library or talk to your school counselor and tell them you don't want your mom to know yet. He/she probably knows a few solutions to help you get tested and be able to get condoms discreetly. There are a lot of things you can get that have no symptoms, like Chlamydia, which can be very, very harmful to your body and eventually make you sterile, but if you get tested ASAP, all you will have to do is swallow some gooey stuff and/or take a pill or shot, and it will go away. If you don't go ASAP, though, for whatever reason, you can get problems down the road that could potentially be serious and limit what you will be able to do in the future.

Your body and mind aren't ready to make the kinds of serious decisions unprotected sex involves at this age. Don't throw everything away because you "think" he loves you or you "think" you love him. You have your whole life ahead of you to have as much sex as you want. No need to rush.

You won't be having a lot of sex your whole life if you end up with something like herpes or chlamydia, though. Think about that.

If you feel you just HAVE to do it, use condoms, make sure they aren't tough or broken before you put them on, and have him pull out before he finishes.

Don't feel pressured into having sex so young. Your best bet is to just wait. I PROMISE it will be worth it.

[LanaBear]

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