-
Was I violated by a gynocologist when I was a teen?
When I was 17 (approximately), I had my first gynecological exam. During the exam, the doctor digitally penetrated me anally. He did not warn me or tell me what he was doing. I was surprised, and it was painful. He just did a quick sweep and did not linger though. I am 35 now, and no gynecologist has done that since. Is doing that ever part of an obstetricians exam? And if not, should I report the incident? If so, who would I report it to in NJ?
-
What you experienced was a rectal exam, which often does accompany a woman's yearly gynocological exam. The only slight abnormality about the rectal exam was your age. Normally, (at least in my neck of the woods) a woman doesn't have this as part of her exam until she in in her 30's or 40's. Some doctors, I suppose, will do this at every gyno exam, regardless of age... but it is a standard procedure.
So no, you weren't violated and there is no need to report anything. Unpleasant as it may be, it was a medical procedure. If you're questioning why you haven't had one since, you should ask the doctor that examines you now about it...Comment
-
Thanks everyone for the info and peace of mind.
It was just so strange to me that I have been examined by 6 different gynos since that first experience and no one else did that.
I was reading a horrific article about the pediatric pedofile, and I guess it led me to relive that first exerience.Comment
Get The Newsletter
Latest Activity
-
A balanced middle ground seems healthiest here. You can set a clear boundary without turning every disagreement into a fight. Calmly explaining how her...
08-15-2026, 07:35 AM By chrishillus -
Well, funny enough, I've talked to a few people about this, and we've all had a laugh that on social media and in certain circles, women are coming clean...
08-12-2026, 09:35 PM By JonnyR -
Reply to PCOS and unwanted hair growth
I had NO idea! But honestly, the new name makes so much more sense. I’ve always associated PCOS primarily with the reproductive side of things, so it’s...
08-11-2026, 12:12 PM By Birdie_567 -
Reply to PCOS and unwanted hair growth
BTW -- did you see that the renamed PCOS to PMOS?
Per online:
"Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) has been officially renamed...08-06-2026, 08:04 PM By JonnyR -
To me, there's a big difference between prioritizing your kids' needs and making your kids your entire emotional world. I've definitely seen situations...
08-03-2026, 01:59 PM By Birdie_567
Latest Topics
-
Does anyone have any experience with PCOS and getting rid of unwanted facial hair? What started as one singular strand on my chin in my 20s has turned...
07-27-2026, 07:25 AM By Birdie_567
Comment