[A.M]

My last 3 cycles have been different to usual. My period has always lasted 7 days but lately is lasting 8-10 days. I’m also experiencing more discharge than usual between periods with spotting on and off from my period ending until after ovulation. I also have lower backache frequently.
I’m a virgin and haven’t had a pap smear (after attending to have my first smear at 25 I was basically laughed at for being a virgin and told it wasn’t needed).
I’m now embarrassed to see my Dr.
Are my changes normal?

[jns]

The pap smear is recommended every three to five years in the USA per Wikipedia. It also said that it isn't performed on women who haven't had sexual activity in other countries.

Is your doctor doing any investigation into your symptoms? If not, is it possible to change doctors?

[atskitty2]

I'm sorry you were treated so poorly by the doctor in that office. Please don't be discouraged by that, and seek help elsewhere. Perhaps ask when scheduling what their standards are, and if pre-sexual gynecological care is given.

Some medical practices have different protocol they follow for beginning pap smears and pelvic exams.

Our periods can change throughout the course of our life. The frequency and duration, the symptoms and effects can change quite a bit. Nothing you're describing sounds alarming, but you should be evaluated and under the care of a good physician regardless, to be sure nothing more is going on, or to address it should it become more bothersome.

[Texasred]

I’m a virgin and haven’t had a pap smear (after attending to have my first smear at 25 I was basically laughed at for being a virgin and told it wasn’t needed).
I’m now embarrassed to see my Dr.

A} Find another doctor;
B) File a complaint with your local medical board; behavior like that is so far beyond acceptable that there's not a word for it. Well, there is, but this is polite society.

[Ronit Raj]

It is advisable to consult with a fertility specialist about your changes in menstrual cycle and symptoms. While some variations in menstrual patterns can be normal, it's important to rule out any underlying causes or conditions. It's essential not to feel embarrassed or hesitant to seek medical advice.