[KillerQueen79]

Ok, the history (notice that I'm hime alone drinking a bottle of wine alone on Xmas Eve... Brigitte Jones eat your heart out!!).....

Joined a dating website, met a guy (really nice). He wined and dined me twice and then on the third date asked me back to his. I accepted. Not heard anything from him since Saturday (when he said hed forgotten about out date on Sunday) despite sending him 2 texts. I want to send him either one of the following mails after seeing him log into Facebook. I want all suggestion on changes to make etc please:



So what was it? Were you just after a quick shag, nothing more?

I've got no problem finding men to hook up with for one night stand... so why do you think I would want to join match.com?

Or was it you? Just desperate for a shag and couldn't find anyone to help you out? (you getting the impression that I'm hurt?)

My self esteeme, despite what you might think, has been pretty battered over the past few years, mostly by my own making. So, what happens when I put myself on the line to try and find someone to care for me properly? I get knocked down yet again, by someone that I'd started to really like.... you.

So thank you, on the Eve of Xmas, for opening my eyes to what I probably knew all along.... no one wants me.

Forgive me if I remove you from FB as a friend, I somehow doubt that you'll be that bothered anyway.


.......Or....


So what was it? Were you just after a quick shag, nothing more? (in which case I particularly liked the line 'I want to wait until were sober'... such a turn on).

My self esteeme, despite what you might think, has been pretty battered over the past few years, mostly by my own making.

So anyway, I think to myself that I'm going to try and find a decent guy who is looking for the same things as me.... but what happens? I get knocked down yet again! Not by, a stranger or someone I wasn't planning on seeing again but by someone that I'd started to really like.... you.

You didn't even have the decency to tell me that you weren't interested anymore, just left me hanging.

So, thanks for the meals, the wine, the laughs and the shag. Shame you didn't want it to last any longer.

Forgive me if I remove you from FB as a friend, I somehow doubt that you'll be that bothered anyway.



What do ya think girls (i know It was my own fault for sleeping with him so soon!!!)....

[Little]

Don't give him the pleasure. What do you think his reaction will be? "Oh, I'm so sorry, blah blah blah, excuses excuses." Or worse, no answer. Nothing good can come out of sending him these messages. Not a single thing.

[KillerQueen79]

True.... but I want to keep in touch with him!!!!

Maybe I'll just change my Facebook 'relationship' status to make him jealous?!.... haha!!! Like hes going to notice!

The thing is though that I've been with enough 'players' in my time to believe hes not like that.... Its so frustrating!!!

God!! being single has a lot to offer!!

[Little]

You've made the effort to speak to him. You never know what's going on. You're driving yourself crazy! I don't think your problem is sex. It's that you got yourself so attached to this man after three dates.
Play it cool. If you pull all these antics you're talking about, you'll only get one thing out of it: being the butt of the jokes with him and his buddies. Work on being more independent so that you don't have to "play" cool, just BE cool.

[Guest]

The thing is though that I've been with enough 'players' in my time to believe hes not like that.... Its so frustrating!!!

Then why not give it some more time? get too clingy too fast and you'll chase him away. wait a few days, send him a nice, non-intense, and very short email and see what happens.

[WildChild]

Its the holidays, he's probably really busy. Just calm down and back off. If he's interested you'll hear from him, if he isn't interested you won't and if he's on the fence, pushing will probably push him away.

[KillerQueen79]

Thanks guys... everything you have said is sooo true.... ok.... will be strong.

But you'd think if he 'was out with his mates getting drunk' tonight (as per FB) then he could at least text me?!

oh well!!

[Tuesday]

The thing about emotional emails is that you save them to drafts and you give it 24/48 hours to think about sending it.

You'll sound like a nutter! Believe me I've been there.

One particularly humiliating one was having my email returned to me, unread, with the following attached to it.....'I didn't read that...I don't care, now F off'

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Always hold your head up high..

So, you shagged.. Imagine, if you didn't send anything... You are making a statement, "thanks for the shag"... are you not? And, so you can't feel / look bad, when he hasn't contacted you.. He's left wondering himself, all be it that he decided that was it, it's still a question in his mind always... Yeah she never ever texted me?

Point being, if after that, he didn't contact you, then is that the sort of guy you want in your life?

Be careful of Internet sites , dating... a couple of dinners each time means nothing to a player seeking the vulnerable.

Women can be closed minded and think that all the guys on those sites are actually, really looking for "the one".. The funny thing is, most of them are, however, they will "settle" for the first one, or "use", or have no idea what they are looking for anyway..

Join some groups as well of things you like, Salsa dancing, something... meet like minded people, you also never know who's friends of theirs may pop into your life...

CW

[Uneeklyme]

Hmmm...

Honestly, your email sounds insecure and desperate. I understand you want to continue a relationship with this man but attacking him will probably make him bristle and pull away.

Maybe just start out with a hey, i had a nice time and would like to spend more time with you type of thing then move on to a where do we go from here...