[Little]

[My ex and I had a minimally messy breakup last month, in case you're wondering where this came from ]
I had drunk (protected) sex with a guy I know from class a few nights ago, and the next day he texts to apologize. I can't even begin to put myself in his place to try to understand why he would apologize when to me it looks like a "nobody got hurt" situation, so I figured I'd bring it to WH.
Any suggestions?

[Hopeless Dork]

Maybe he was worried you might feel taken advantage of since its possible he pereceived you as being in a delicate mental state, post bad break-up. Sounds like he was either just trying to be a good guy, or was feeling insecure and antipating you calling and telling him it was a mistake.

[acerousme]

NOOOOOOO...I made a promise to answer first...and I failed....

...you know my suggestions....and you say "Monday, Ace...Monday."

dont stress it...you're only human

[Little]

I thought about that, HD, but because it's so the opposite of how I'm feeling, it just seems strange.
I don't really know him that well, so I guess he doesn't know me that well either. We just have a class together (Yes, Ace, on Monday :P) Perhaps more information will come up then.

[mewhenim]

sounds like no big deal, probably just covering his bases so you don't feel taken advantage of.

[acerousme]

My dearest Little,
On monday...talk to him...ask him about it. Your a feminazi...you can do it (I wuvv you)

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Uno:- You go to College with him, so he knows you as a person...soooo, he knows you as a person...

Dua: (shhhh I don't have to spell it right), No doubt, you talked about "pookie", etc pertaining to the ex.

Tria: (haha spell it for me later), It's endearing that he did that, knowing you were "drunk" assuming, you may feel hurt or guilty, considering you were in a "distant" relationship of sorts for so long and have now broken up.

Kind of nice don't you think?

I do......

Now, the other side of the coin is.... Soooo... Did she feel guilty?

If not, does she want to do it again? Like, no one got hurt situation?

Asking/posing the question to you babe, to get your answer of how you feel about the situation.....


CW

[sourpuss]

My guess is that he may think that you thought it meant something and maybe he's trying to pre-empt some awkward conversation or situation. I a lot of guys are surprised when a woman just wants to get some action without strings attached, and they don't really know how to handle it.

By the way, sorry to hear about you and your ex. I thought you two were pretty serious but LDRs are tough so I understand.

[mewhenim]

lol, it took me ages to convince my current friend with benefits that I wasn't looking for my next husband or a serious relationship, and all I need is sex at least once, maybe twice a week... or as much as he will put out. He did the awkward avoiding me thing, I think he's pretty much gotten over it now he kjnows me a little better.

[golden_nemesis]

lol, it took me ages to convince my current friend with benefits that I wasn't looking for my next husband or a serious relationship, and all I need is sex at least once, maybe twice a week... or as much as he will put out. He did the awkward avoiding me thing, I think he's pretty much gotten over it now he kjnows me a little better.

I tried having a FWB last fall. Problem is, if I am not getting any, my sex drive is capable of going into hibernation. But if I am getting it occasionally, like you are, once or twice a week, my libido is awake and working, but not getting nearly enough stimulation, so I spend all of my time frustrated and horny except for the nights I would see him. He started pulling away because I was bugging him almost daily for a session of benefits. I think he was afraid I would make too much out of it.

Little, I obviously don't know this guy, but its possible he might feel bad for what happened, as you are recovering from a break-up and were also drunk. He may just want to make sure that you knew he didn't want you to end up getting hurt.

Then again, I am oddly optimistic at the most random times. This might be one of those, as I am trying to give him credit for being a sensitive type.