[jnd2009]

PS... don't feel like a horrible girlfriend. You care about him and don't want to see him getting hurt. I tell my boyfriend that when he asks why I get so mad.

[FeministBen]

Have you ever asked your girlfriend "seriously" not just to reply no because you want her too.. Whether or not she really likes this?

Trust is one thing and your not a player, not to be tempted, in love...

Both having separate friends, equals separate identities, independence a good thing.

But, NEVER, going out with your friends, or you with her friends, as a couple?

That to me would make most women feel that she wasn't good enough to meet his circle of friends.

I don't disagree that you should have me time, or go out with your mates, visa versa.

I don't agree with NEVER... that to me wouldn't make me feel like I was in a committed relationship, rather I was there, in the background.

CW

Ah, well to be entirely honest, I invited her out a couple times and it didn't really work. They didn't click and it ended up bein rather awkward. I invited her out a few months back with a couple of female friends I thought she might get on with, just for coffee together but that didn't really work either. I don't think she knows how to act around me and my pals so I don't particularly wana force it, just best to leave it be.

I've been out with her and her pals a few times and I hang with her flatmates when I'm at hers so it's not so bad that end.

I understand the background thing, I do feel like she's a part of my life that's separate from the rest. In a way I quite like it that way, when we spend time together it's sort of a haven from everyone else.

[Iseulda]

I'd just like to clarify that my post starting:

^^ Worst advice ever.

Does NOT refer to the post now above it. The post above it that I was criticising has been removed (and rightly so, thanks mods).

Mes_T's advice is actually very good.