[CHANDLERS WISH]

If I can be honest.

The first thing you need to do is boost your confidence. You need to get your mindset right that "dating is okay, fun, it will be fun,".

Probably, do something radical as well, get highlights in your hair, buy a new lipstick you wouldn't wear, a couple of tops..

See the beauty in you as you look in the mirror.


On-line dating is dangerous. I've tried it.

Let me explain.

Your 23, never been on a date.. Your going to be vulnerable. There are going to be so many looking for "booty calls" regardless of what their profile says.

So, the danger is your heart. Be very careful. And, take your time with anyone that you go out on a second or third date with, don't invite them back to your house, or give out your address, meet them on mutual turf..

Now the good side is what I did after separation. It made me realise that men were attracted to me, hitting on the dating site, asking me out for a date. It's usually something very casual that you can up and leave if they are jerks, or stay and talk longer if your getting along.

So, you get to date.

You get to make your own decisions if you like them.

You get dressed up.

You gain more confidence with each date.

And, it will help you get where you want to go, into a relationship.

So do it. With all that in mind.

You may not meet the guy that you want to go out with from a dating site, I didn't, but you will have the confidence to interact with guys and therefore, flirt in that video store, or shop, or sports club where ever it takes you to next..


CW

[xJanex]

Do you know any friends that are friends of friends? or do you work with any guys that are friends of yours maybe you could suggest a nigth out with your mates and ask his mates to come along after all its nothing serious just a way to get to know maybe one if his mates!

like what greenday say nice guys finish last you will find the guy eventually it just takes time.. you never know you might turn around ad the guy bumps into like they do in films
he could be the one lol

[teardropsonfire]

I can relate to this a lot actually. I was 22 when I got my first "real" boyfriend (or serious?). In high school and college I was very into my academics so I didn't date too much. I went on dates but nothing serious...I dated him for a little over a year, and he broke my heart...but I have come to the conclusion that I dated someone a lot older than me, and I also work at a small company and I dated a coworker (not the best idea but he was a super nice guy) and well I was taken complete advantage of. I put my whole heart and soul into this relationship and he mislead me the whole time. He brought down my self-esteem and made me feel like I was not good enough for him, and I kept TRYING to be good enough for him and in the end it wasn't enough. He totally broke me. But now I realize that I am better off without him, Have more to offer and that there is a guy out there who will love me for me. I am almost 24 and am gaining my confidence back and hopefully jump on the dating scene again. I have learned to take things slowly and be more confident. It is hard now a day I think for people to meet. I am trying the dating sites. Right now just browsing, but when I am ready I will give it a try. Like it has been said, if I don’t meet someone through that, that works out, then at least I am out meeting new people and gaining confidence.

I am now transforming myself- haircut, color, changing wardrobe and putting all of my emotions into exercising. Each day, I like myself more and more. My advice to you has already been said, take small steps into dating and don’t let anyone push you down and take advantage of you. You know what you want, so if a guy doesn’t meet those expectations, then keep trying. I truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone!

[FeministBen]

I shouldn't feel inadequate about your lack of experience. Guys will certainly look at it as a major bonus so no worries eh :P

Flirt with people on the internet, go out to clubs with friends, etc etc. Meetin guys isn't hard, you just need to make yourself available and they should do the rest really.

[Danny Boy]

Hey there!
If you want to, get in touch with me, I could also use a friend...I just moved to Germany and it's a lonely world out here this way.It's a win-win situation

Danny