[Vixen]

Ive known this guy for about 8 months but long distance is just not for us. We want to be together, so now that I have finished my course I am moving away from family and friends to be with him (though work is also a factor, more job oppertunities in his area).

However I naturally have some worries, I have never lived with anyone but family before and moving away to live with a man is exciting but a little scary.

He is doing everything possible to take care of me and make me comfortable, he has got his female friends talking to me so I will know them for when I live there, he is looking for jobs that I will like to do and is getting the internet for me so I can keep in touch with friends and family.

As much as I want this, and I have nothing to lose at this stage in my life im just getting nervous and I want to know has anyone done this before and has it worked out?

Obviously in the long run I am confident that I am doing the right thing but its good to talk to people who have done this to know the advantages and disadvantages.

Im moving soon so just getting a little nervous lol.

[rcoreyus]

Make sure that you have a way to move back (enough saved money, etc) - you don't want to fell trapped in a new location.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

He sounds like a treasure. Not many guys would even think about ensuring you already have female friends when you get there.

You say long distance and 8 months... I assume you do and have gotten to see him though at least once a month?

Corey is right, living with someone is different and it may go perfectly, but it may not and you need to be able to get back home easily if it doesn't.

The only thing I would want to know, is where his family lives, their phone number and ensure my family had those details, as well.

Have you met them as well?

CW

[Vixen]

He sounds like a treasure. Not many guys would even think about ensuring you already have female friends when you get there.

You say long distance and 8 months... I assume you do and have gotten to see him though at least once a month?

Corey is right, living with someone is different and it may go perfectly, but it may not and you need to be able to get back home easily if it doesn't.

The only thing I would want to know, is where his family lives, their phone number and ensure my family had those details, as well.

Have you met them as well?

CW

Thank you for the replies, sorry for the late reply I had internet issues lol.

We have not had the oppertunity to see each other every month but there have been several visits, I have met his family and my family have their contact details.

I have a way to get back again if it doesnt work out.

Ive been getting mixed feelings from friends and family but I feel this is a good change for me right now, I am leaving tomorrow and im really excited.

I have been rather nervous but I have been talking to some of his friends a lot recently and they are possibly more excited about me moving over than me and him are lol.

Thanks for replying, needed reasurance but also good advice and I knew I would get that here.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

People will always hold "FEAR" and in addition, alot will question as it's not something they would even try, let alone believe in

You know, you have answered the questions of the most "Fear" and in that, I doubt you have anything to fear except for finally getting to know each other side by side instead of such a distance between you.

As Nike says " Just do it"

I am sure that you two will be able to use the same communication as you have during your time together thus far..

CW

[WildChild]

8 months still has you very much in the infatuation phase and you haven't had all that much time together. I see nothing wrong with this move but do second the idea of being certain you have the ability to be on your own if you need to.

Could you move and get your own place for 6 to 12 months? The two of you could see a lot more of each other and it would be a more gradual adjustment.