[snuffie]

Hi Ladies, some of you may know my back story, well I split with my ex 2 months ago and this weekend I had a slightly drunken snog with a male friend. Great confidence boost, but the thing is I think I could quite like him as more than a friend but im not in the right place at the moment still getting over my previous boyfriend. I don't know what to do, I feel acting on this kiss now could result in disaster just because of how fragile I am and that I wanted some time for myself, but I do like him and don't want him to pass me by if you catch my drift, what should I do?

Sarah

[sourpuss]

How often do you see this 'friend'? What's your friendship like? Do you think that he likes you or it was just a boozey make out between friends?
When I broke up with my ex, I felt like I was immediately ready to start dating again. At first I felt bad, like I should give it time, but then I realized that, in my heart, I had already moved on years prior. I don't know if it's the same for you or not, just saying.
If it feels right, go with it. If your gut is telling you that it may not be, then don't. If you listen to your brain, you'll go in circles all day. Listen to your gut.

[snuffie]

Well Adam and I are in contact each week maybe would see each other once a month slightly less or more, we share a hobby and I often help him out (we play in brass bands different ones) I'm unsure, he has being flirtacious for a couple of years but nothing definate.
We were talking the previous week and he was saying to me that he has just got over his girlfriend that died while he was at University this is now 3 1/2 years later and that the relationships he had since there were good but he wasn't over her death. My gut says protect yourself and him, I know i'm not ready yet but there is something there....

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think, that if a person makes such a bold statement, it's for a reason... He has stated that he "has" gotten over her. It's very difficult when it's due to death because there are more emotions, no closure, and sometimes a feeling of guilt, like she is watching and saying "no you can't move on". This would have been very difficult for him and therefore, it's understandable he couldn't cut it with others at that time.

But, he has made a "bold" statement. Then the week after, kissed you. You have had closure, it's time to move on so if you like him, things don't have to move fast, they can move very slowly and in that, you get to know each other more on a different level and grow to like each other more on that level, or find that your really only mates... What do you have to loose? Take it slowly that's all.

You can't walk around protecting your heart. Hearts get broken but if you don't take the risk you will never know if he was the one, all because of fear of protecting your heart...

Do you know when your ready? It's when your heart starts to feel something every so slight.... like, "something there"

CW

[sourpuss]

You can't walk around protecting your heart. Hearts get broken but if you don't take the risk you will never know if he was the one, all because of fear of protecting your heart...

CW

best advice!!!

[snuffie]

CW you are so wise!!

I hadn't though about our conversation the previous week until I wrote it on here!! I don't know if it was just coincidence or deliberate. who knows???

[pretzel]

CW you are so wise!!

I hadn't though about our conversation the previous week until I wrote it on here!! I don't know if it was just coincidence or deliberate. who knows???

To buttress CW's statement which I wholeheartedly agree with, does it really matter if it was coincidence or deliberate. It happened and for all you know, it happened for a reason.

[LanaBear]

To buttress CW's statement which I wholeheartedly agree with, does it really matter if it was coincidence or deliberate. It happened and for all you know, it happened for a reason.

Completely agree with Pretz and everyone else. Stop over thinking it. If you continue to over think it, you are bound to find something wrong. Don't fear a relationship because of the risk of heartbreak. It's better to have lived and loved than not at all.

[snuffie]

Completely agree with Pretz and everyone else. Stop over thinking it. If you continue to over think it, you are bound to find something wrong. Don't fear a relationship because of the risk of heartbreak. It's better to have lived and loved than not at all.

Yet again ladies you are right, lets jump in with both feet....got to live my life for the moment!