[tesoro]

Does anyone have any advice on how to meet wonderful men in their 40's or even 30's (yes, I am interested in younger men too, because I also feel and look younger than my age).

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Moved your thread to your own mam

Be wary of on-line dating

Lots of baggage there, as well as those just looking to score, although there are a few "real" people, seriously looking but the younger ones will see you as a Cougar

What is around you, where you live?

What are your hobbies?

Do you have friends that you can also tag along with? Or they can tag along with you to places?

CW

[jns]

Echo, be wary of on-line dating.

[Hopeless Dork]

The best way to meet a man you are going to click with is going out there an enjoying life doing things you love to do... that way when you do bump into a man you find attractive you already have something in common (enjoying the same hobby/interest/activity or location). Go on about your day like you normally would but LEAVE YOUR HOUSE... an awesome guy isn't just going to knock on your door Get on out there... a friends getting married? Go! A co-workers Birthday party? GO! Some community shin dig? Go! Meeting people the natural way, in a natural setting is so much less pressure than a bar or singles gathering type deal.

Watch how you present yourself to people, women can be INTIMIDATING... so even if a guy is interested if you are sending out the wrong vibes he may not approach. So be warm and friendly, don't look at the ground... look people in the eye and smile. Make conversation, small talk, crack some jokes or snappy funny remarks..

Make sure that you are sending out to the world the signal that you are warm, welcoming and happy... like attracts like... let yourself shine and people will gravitate to you.

[Casey715]

Smile. Put your hair up and show off your shoulders and neck. Don't wear too much makeup. And most important, above all......sorry, did you mean overall. That's just what I look for, I guess I was getting a little carried away. Honestly, like HD said, get out and have a good time. Be yourself and you will be fine.

[tesoro]

Thanks CW and thanks all for your thoughts and tips. I guess it makes sense that being active in areas I enjoy will increase the likelihood of my meeting someone who I will have at least one thing in common with. I have thought about on-line dating but have heard some horror stories. I have also heard of a few couples who met that way and are doing amazingly well - even two couples who got married. However, I think it works more for the 20's to 30's generation.

I live in a suburb of a large city and I have access to many interesting places. I also have several friends who like to get together for dinner and a movie or a drink, but I think I need to go out to places where there are more social activities going on with larger groups of people. I love music, movies, exercising, and reading. I used to love dancing but haven't gone out to a club in a long time. I don't think that's the kind of place I would go to for any other reason than just to let loose and have fun with some girlfriends. Maybe I need to rethink my hobbies and try something I haven't done in a long time. Now you've all got me thinking......hmmmmmm