[lavender]

I jz started my first dating on 5th Sept 2010..now only passes 2 months..i feel like it is not the same as b4 ..our topic become less...and we only c each other once in a week..also less messaging n talk on phone...our relationship is a total secret to others...i dont know is he still love me or not? pls advise..

[WildChild]

How old are you?
How does he act when you see each other?

[x.st.angel.x]

More information is needed...

Why is your relationship secret?

[lavender]

How old are you?
How does he act when you see each other?

I am 23 yrs old...when first started n c each other ..a bit shy ...also less topic to talk...but tat time he care more bout me...like alwys msg me...but then after few weeks..i think changed already...less msg n call....b4 alwys said 'i miss u' so much...now no more...so sad/...

[lavender]

More information is needed...

Why is your relationship secret?

cos his company n my company are architect n contractor firm...he don wana let our colleague know...scare got conflict...duno true or not...then he said still early to let ppl know...really less topic to talk...go out wtchin movie also didnt hold my hand....he walk in front i walk behind...wat tkind of relationship is this....

[Hopeless Dork]

If it was his idea to keep this relationship a secret, it would make me suspect something is fishy. Have you been to his house? Is there a possibility that he is carrying on another relationship? Also, If you have only been 'dating' and its only been 2 months... its rare that someone could stop loving someone at this point as its rare that they have started loving someone at this point. Surely there is infactuation and lust, but love is something that develops over time, love generally can't be kept secret.. when a man loves a woman one of the things they do is pronounce that love, by introducing you as a girlfriend, taking you around friends and family, there is a pride in it... this is my heart.

The sneaking, the walking in front of you the sometimes messaging a lot sometimes not could imply he may be having something else going on. Or it could simply be that he is truly worried about the conflict and appearances and is just busy lately.

But sounds like you might be taking the relationship more seriously than he is at this point... which is probably why you are fretting over not having anything to talk about etc. If you are sure he is not seeing anyone else try to relax. If he thinks you are in it with both feet that could be why he's cooled off a little. 2 months is generally not long enough to determain whether or not someone is someone you want to be with long term, it should still be getting to know you time.

So relax and have fun. Movies are horrible dates for people that have trouble communicating as there are no opportunities to talk during a movie. Instead try something more interactive; bowling, miniture golf... something where there is friendly competition... there is built in topics for you, how well you do or don't do... betting kisses etc.

Just try to loosen up and have fun and when there is nothing left to say, talk about your life, your hopes your dreams, ask him his... talk about your childhood, talk about his... get to know him on a deeper level and let him get to know you that way too. Talk about your job, your friends, your family, current news events, and don't be afraid of silence, sometimes its just good to sit and hold each other with no words needed, find some comfort in that.

[Ashlee T.]

Have you had sex with him yet? If so, was it around that time he stopped being as attentive?

[lavender]

Have you had sex with him yet? If so, was it around that time he stopped being as attentive?

no sex b4........he wana hav sex but i don wan to....only touch breast and vagina.......i only 'play' wif his penis...till the sperm out....he wan more than tat...like oral n sex..but i only know him for 2 months...

[robertthomson]

when a man loves a woman one of the things they do is pronounce that love, by introducing you as a girlfriend, taking you around friends and family, there is a pride in it... this is my heart.