[AnastasiaRose]

I used to date a guy I worked with (diff department) he no longer works there and it's been over a year he turned out to be a jerk and things ended rather ugly between us even though it was only casual his sisters still stop whatever their doing and stare at me not like dirty looks but just stare and yeavesdrop in what im talking about at work which has NOTHING to do with their brother. It seems weird their doing this well after a year as he doesn't want any contact with me is it possible their feeding him information so he can get back at me? as I never did anything to them directly.... when I see them I just look the other way. I don't want to email or talk to them as it would start more drama...is this the best thing to do? or what should I do?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Maybe they are busy bodies and they have always been this way.

I'm not sure how ugly it ended and what they know of that ending but if they feel protective and vendictive then for sure they would be trying to gain something on you.

It's unfortunate that you work with them and can't totally be yourself, having to look over your shoulder, but I would stop in mid sentance to whom ever I am talking to, and look them straight in the eyes and say "can I help you wish something?"..I bet they won't reply and walk off......

Other than that, don't bother with them, and don't let them affect your life.

CW

[CHANDLERS WISH]

bumping

[AnastasiaRose]

Thanks,

Im pretty sure the brother has set them to spy/yeavesdropping for him and they don't like me because it ended ugly. However, I do like your idea by asking "Can I help you with something?" it seems ignoring them doesn't work.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Make sure you say that in front of someone, it's "confronting" and will embarass them whilst you are coming across as being polite

[Agony_Aunt]

I had a close friend who was in the same situation.

And it's unfortunate that some people just have that kind of way about them that they feel they need to get you back for something, and take a disliking and make it out to be "You hurt my brother, I'll get you back". she was ignoring them, but it didn't really help.
Eventually one day she did turn around and ask them, what their problem was and why they were constantly annoying her. And guess what.. they didn't have an answer.
So my friend reckons now, that they just kept annoying her because they thought she was shy and they could bully her and she would be too afraid to say anything, and they could get away with it. But once she spoke up and they realised that she isn't as shy as they thought it all stopped.

It sounds to me that this has turned it to a bullying situation. So like CW said, next time, just asking them something, and be confident when you say it. So they will know that you aren't afraid. This should stop it as bully's usually don't try to bully someone anymore when they've met their match.

Good luck

[AnastasiaRose]

what should i do about my exes sisters

About a year and half ago I dated someone I worked with he ended up cheating on me as im inexpierenced, he lied to me, gave me a std, he ignored me and tried to turn my friend against me. Needless to say I was hurt by what he did to me so I had e-mailed his other gf and had secretively found out what he was ding behind my back I don't want to get into this because it's done and over with the problem I have is that he though he is no longer there his sisters are.

I work in a service and support dept in healthcare as so do the sisters at first BOTH of the sister would stare/glare at me and stop what their doing and listen to my conversation now one of them has stopped and it's just the older one. She won't talk to mutual friends at work as they were seen with me, she glares/stares at me, shakes her head when she sees me, brushes me off, turns red faced, she started yeavesdropping on my pointless conversations and I have seen glimpses of her spying on me.

I have tried ignoring her for the past year and a half it just doesn't seem to work - I think I need to address the issue im not fond of her brother but I think he set her up to do this. What do you think?

I think Im going to need to say something I was thinking of "Me and your brother stopped talking a long time ago I don't understand why you are trying to continue something that ended 2 years ago." How is that? or any other suggestions?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Honey I noted you started a new thread as this one stopped, I will close that and link that one here..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/dating/40174-what-should-i-do-about-my-exes-sisters.html

I am having difficulty merging your thread to the other one, site is slow perhaps another Mod can do so for me.

However, you never mentioned STD in the other thread, I suspect HE has told them you gave it to him..Time to tell them the truth sweet.

[caterpillar79]

Merged them...I hope it works now.

Men can be discreet carriers of STDs and women are just so vulnerable. Time to tell them the truth, my dear.