[zoeyredbird]

My boyfriend and I have been with him for 6 years. When we met he was sweet and kind and enjoyed my high labeto. He moved in with me the day we met. Over the years he has changed he has gotten more and more distant. Now he chooses to masterbate insted of having sex with me I am lucky if we have sex once a month now. I still have a high sex drive and spend about six hours a day masterbating my self out of need. I have tried talking to him about my needs but he is so closed up now that it feels like I am talking to a wall. We have never been compatable I am a outgoing optomist while he is a closed off sinic. I enjoy people, he does not. I am highly sexual while he is not. I really love him but am not sure if I should stay because his lack of sex makes me want to go elsewhere for it but he would not be ok with that.
I am out of ideas and willing to take ideas from ya'll

[confusedladki]

Try seducing him with some hot lingerie. Send him sexy sms. Surprise him by walking naked in the house wearing only high heels. Guys are strange but they are very simple to understand. Try these and let me know if it worked.

Good luck!

[KMonte85]

Besides the many years together, what is keeping you in this relationship? You've tried talking to him about your needs and it falls upon deaf ears... you say you're not at all compatible otherwise...

What are you sticking around for?

Yes, you can still love someone even if they're not right for you. You two have a long history together, what you had in the beginning was great, but you need to look at what you have now... which is a great roommate as you've described it yourself. Are you willing to live with that forever?

You need to evaluate what you want out of life, out of a partner, and discuss it with him. In my opinion, a man who would turn down a woman practically begging him for sex will do so whether she's wearing heels/lingerie or a burka. The time for seduction is over... it's now time for a serious talk about what each of you need in a partner and if you two can be that person for each other.

[amy37]

Agree with Kmonte85, sounds like the relationship is over with no signs of recovery.

[jns]

Six hours a days sounds a bit much, but each to her or his own. Many guys would say that they wanted a woman with a high libido, but would crumble if they were in a relationship with one. Does this help you? - no. Like the others, I don't see this as a situation that will reach a compromise that both can live with.

[Trisha23]

I guess you lack the foreplay. If he is not that passionate enough on you, why not do things that will make him learn and want you more.