[commonsense]

Who should pay for the date if you're dating?

1st day always the guy???

Share after that???

One guy came right out and told me he believes it should always be shared.

Your thoughts?

[Guest]

1st always the guy.

shared after that, but with the guy paying a larger share.

unless, of course, the woman has so much $ and wants to be a suga-momma! lol

[Livelaughlove]

Who should pay for the date if you're dating?

1st day always the guy???

Share after that???

One guy came right out and told me he believes it should always be shared.

Your thoughts?

Dont take women on dates where paying is an issue. There are much more exciting, romantic, fun places that can be considered dates and the thought of paying never becomes the issue.

If your talking about dinner dates. Then whoever wants the dinner date pays.

If I ask a girl to come to a dinner date then i pay. NEVER HAPPENED THOUGH

If I'm going to eat and she wants to tag along then she pays for her meal.

If she wants the dinner date she pays.

Dates these days are pretty boring. Honestly who wants to stare at each other over an awkwardly placed table waiting for the food. If you think about it. Its a way for a guy to con a girl into meeting him at a certain time and location in hopes that if he can demonstrate that he is interesting and fun will simultaneously proving to her that he has money and can support her (paying for the meal) then maybe he will get the chance to take her to another dinner date and do the same thing over again.

I mean WTF.

The complex comes in because women these days are much more independent so they dont need a guy to kill the buck and bring it back home. She can go to a grocery store across the street and get that dam steak she wanted by her self.

Another problem here is that this sets up the mentality that the women is the prize and the men have to pay for her time and attention. If a girl is joining me then i see it as she is the lucky one. So she should pay for at least her meal. I'm not a bum i will pay, BECAUSE I WANT TOO. and not because society has made it a rule.

Men or women that say Men should always pay is the same people that get fed up with boring dates.

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[Fire(m)]

Interesting. Back in the stone-age, I dated girls and always paid. I picked girls to go out with that interested and intrigued me. I had some great dates, some that ended poorly, but I can't say that I was bored by any of them. Maybe I was...but too much time has passed to be concerned with it.

2 things come to mind when I read your comments Livelaughlove.
1st: How different the world is in 2008 than it was in 1978 when I was dating.
2nd: Just one of the many reasons why a younger woman would appreciate an older man.

Cheers.

[rcoreyus]

Well I haven't dated since Columbus rediscovered the new world - and not much back then either. But, if I were to date, I agree with livelaughlove that money shouldn't be an issue. If I invited someone to dinner would offer to pay - and would do so quite happily. But my idea of a good dinner date place isn't one with high prices, it is one with interesting food or atmosphere. I would certainly not be trying to convince my date how much money I had.

I LIKE talking to people, so to me it is not staring at each other over a table. Someone who didn't like to talk would be a poor match for me, and there would probably not be another date.

A good date restaurant would provide a topic for discussion. Turkish restaurant -> have you ever been in Turkey -> talk about travel. OR, Turkey - stuck between Europe and the mid-east -> political talk. OR Turkey - there is some really cool ancient stuff there - why was it people suddenly decided to settle down and farm there, 7000 years ago, but didn't most other places. or....

[Ogre]

I think when a male is courting a female it is natural for the male to pay. Once the couple is exclusive you should feel comfortable talking to her about it and come to a deal that works for the 2 of you. I call it communication.

[lovemyself1]

i think that if a man asks me out for dinner then he pays. if i ask him then i pay, unless he insists on paying his half.
i dated this guy that didnt like me to pay even if it was my idea or my choice of where to go. i think if 2 people are mature enough then it wont become an issue.
be resonable though...if he's paying im not going to order the most expensive thing..i usually aim for under whatever he is getting, especially if there is something on the dessert menu i want.

[Idon'tknow]

I personally think it depends on the situation.

If I guy says to you "Hey, can I take you out for dinner?" I think that at this point, he should pay.

But if you guys are discussing a place to go or something to do and dinner is what you guys agreed upon then, in the end I think the girl should at least offer to pay for her half and if the guy says no, at least she offered. Personally for myself, I usually insist on paying for my share, especially for the first few dates. To me, its just showing a sign of independence and it shows him that you won't rely on his money everytime you go out with him.

[sourpuss]

I personally think it depends on the situation.

If I guy says to you "Hey, can I take you out for dinner?" I think that at this point, he should pay.

But if you guys are discussing a place to go or something to do and dinner is what you guys agreed upon then, in the end I think the girl should at least offer to pay for her half and if the guy says no, at least she offered. Personally for myself, I usually insist on paying for my share, especially for the first few dates. To me, its just showing a sign of independence and it shows him that you won't rely on his money everytime you go out with him.

I agree with this approach. Also, in this day and age, it's perfectly acceptable for the girl to ask the guy out on a date. If I ask someone out, then I plan on paying. However, it would be nice if the next time we had a meal or did something that he paid.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

I'm probably not going to pay for a first date, and I haven't yet. Perhaps a drink, expecting to have one bought for me in return. If a woman expects to earn a salary for the honour of her time she's a prostitute, and I don't need to pay for company. In fact, if I did, I'd probably go the whole hog and get an honest prostitute, that way at least getting laid would be a certainty.

I simply could not respect a woman who tries to have her way through life paid by suckers. It's a choice every woman can make, to think about nothing and be provided for, and it's pathetic when a woman succumbs to that easy road.

But then perhaps I feel more strongly about this than I should since I'm not exactly loaded at the moment.

All of this said, I agree that it's good to make someone feel special and cared for... And arranging a nice suprise for someone etc. is all well and good. But expecting it as a matter of course? PAH!