[3girls4me]

First let me say I'm a normally happy married wife. In fact I've been with dh for 14 years. But dh is not my first or second. I've been with 3 men. The first guy a meet when I was out with a friend from school. We met a couple guys, and dated them together. She ended up marrying the guy she dated. Any way I had dated other guys and never felt the way I did about this guy. It was like an amazing spark from the moment we meant. It was one of those things others could see from the light in our eyes. I was a virgin and he was very experienced. We didn't have sex for about a month into our relationship. He wouldn't till then because he wanted to make sure, I was sure. It was pretty good as far as virgin sex goes I guess. He broke it off a couple weeks after that because he said he was ready to feel the way he was feeling. We ended up going out few time after that. I think our friends were trying to get us back together. I didn't here from him for a few months and then he came over one night and wanted to talk. We ended up having sex in his car. I started dating my dh that same week. I kept hoping the ex would call. I saw him a few time after that when he was playing ball against dh. Then he called one night wanted to take me out to dinner, said he had been calling but my mom wasn't giving me the messages. Said he wanted to start all over and do things right. Dh was in the room and freaked. I told him no and not to call again. He started dating his wife that week. I've always regretted not talking to him. I have a happy life but I don't feel that spark with dh that did with my first. I know dh feels that spark for me though and I feel guilty. I feel committed to dh and our life together. But I will always wonder what could have been? Is this normal just because he was my first? And no I wouldn't leave my husband for him, but I would consider a relationship with him if we where both single again, as does happen later in life.

[3girls4me]

Anyone have any comments on this. Do others still think of the one that took there virginity. Especially if you are not still with them.

[rcoreyus]

I'm a guy.
Yes I do think of her. She was wild and fun - and would have been a terrible long term companion for me. We broke up under friendly terms and gradually drifted apart. I haven't heard from her in many years.

My life with my wife is wonderful - except for the near total lack of sex, and near total lack of variety when we do. I love my wife, and I never loved that other girl, but I do think of her sometimes.

Watch "the name of the rose".

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think that it's very normal to think of your first true love, till the day you die.

Some people are so glad that they didn't chose that path but mainly because there was some form of closure.

I suspect you think because you "wonder" as there was no closure you made a decision and obviously the right one, 14 years is a long time, the other guy may have left you again after a few, as he still couldn't commit and then you may have missed out on meeting your husband.

Things happen for reasons in life.

We meet people for reasons in life.

It's normal, just you always wondered.

CW

[Guest]

I agree with CHANDLERS WISH ... totally ...
And may I ask are you in love with your husband ... coz you don't just think of you first, you're ....
Hope to read from you soon and hope things will be better

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