[Guest]

Thanks WC !! - I'd like to call him, but i know after having some beers I'd unload on him and i ca't do that.
I did meet this guy the other night at this pub, he gave me his business card. He plays the bass guitar and use to be in a band. I told him i like to start another band maybe I'll call him, he told me
he might be interested

[WildChild]

That's a great idea! Even geting together to jam a bit would probably do you a world of good!

[Guest]

I've made the Decision

Well, short weekend but enough time to sort thru the cob-webs.
I went to the pub the other night to meet the bass player, it's not going to happen. He wants to play blues, anyway that really don't matter.

So, I'm standing there by myself, (the place was packed, and packed with all ages of women), and I begin to think, ya know, i don't belong here. If i did hook up with another woman it would be conceived thru lust, i'm not really look'in for that kind of thing. Yea i stayed for a little while and got a little Topsy, I think that's why i went more than anything to be honest. I wanted my brain to be numb for a while, you ever been there?

So, after the wife got off work at noon today we talked -
"Look" i say, i realize now everything you said the other day is right. If i ever was able to find another woman I would have to work it out with her if not more - and then it may not work either. I know you luv me, I'd be a fool to leave you baby, i luv you too - i want you to know i'm not leaving, i want you to know i have not messed around with any other woman ( and i haven't)

You asked me the other day to forgive you, at the time i didn't but now I'm am and I'm asking you to forgive me for the way I've been running off and all. I want to work it out. You've come to terms with your past and the issues you had with me. That' good but we've got to go forward from here. We've got to get our communication line back open ( I haven't forgot N01).

She's told me many times she has wanted to talk and tried but i just shirk it off or got analytical with her instead of really trying to understand or just listen and say nothing. She's right I have, but at the time i tho't i was just being myself and i guess i was but it was not a positive side of myself.

So i say ok, you're going to have to step back out of you comfort zone and overcome the fear of me not understanding, and give me the chance to work with ya. Other wise it's not going to happen.

Now we know the issues, we've got something to work on. These, really have been the issues in the past but we both never came to terms or realize we have to whip these problems out in order to go forward.

I believe we're on the right track,

so, cross your fingers

[thack]

I whole heartedly wish you the best of luck, I did not get a chance to read the entire 4 pages, but I read most of YOUR posts, and I truly understand (well, 8 years worth) where you are coming from.

I hope that you can re-open those communication lines and re-connect with your wife the way you want to. I will be praying for you.

[thack]

I whole heartedly wish you the best of luck, I did not get a chance to read the entire 4 pages, but I read most of YOUR posts, and I truly understand (well, 8 years worth) where you are coming from.

I hope that you can re-open those communication lines and re-connect with your wife the way you want to. I will be praying for you.

[thack]

Not sure why it double posted, dmn paper cup and string internet :P

That is the only reason I was not able to read more, it takes just about 3 straight minutes just to load the page ><

find strength brother! I am looking for it too :P

[annasthasia]

If this can enlighten you in some way... Pretty funny...

YouTube - Mark Gungor - Men's Brain Women's Brain - EXTENDED

Go have a look... It explains the difference between woman and men's brains...

[WildChild]

You've had such a roller coaster, I hope that this new found communication means that things will level out for you. But don't quit working on finding ways to stay interested and engaged in life. You have to find your joy and it isn't just in your relationship. Your wife should be who you share it with not the source. If that makes sense? You've been through a lot and it take time to get back on an even keel. Give yourself an her time, it didn't fall apart overnight, it won't all come back together in snap but at least you are both wanting to work on it and that's huge!

[Guest]

thanks for the post WC, she told me herself today that she too felt as tho it has been a roller coaster,
so yes we'll see

thanks again!