[Aithneu]

even though it isn't necessarily cheating, it's still hurts so bad. i can't stop thinking about it! it hurts

at least he told me, but i still dont know what to do. i love him so much and i want to be with him, but i dont know if i can trust him. please help!!!

In order to have a full, open relationship with you he needed to tell you something he could easily have kept secret. The fact that he told you shows you that he felt guilty about it, which therefore shows he cares about your relationship. He would have broken up with you if he wanted to cheat, or he'd have gone right ahead and done so, but he didn't. He came clean. Furthermore, perhaps this is a sign that you two need to spice it up a bit for his sake.

[st_simon]

In order to have a full, open relationship with you he needed to tell you something he could easily have kept secret. The fact that he told you shows you that he felt guilty about it, which therefore shows he cares about your relationship. He would have broken up with you if he wanted to cheat, or he'd have gone right ahead and done so, but he didn't. He came clean. Furthermore, perhaps this is a sign that you two need to spice it up a bit for his sake.

It's really nice to hear this, just not the last part. I thought the same thing---maybe he just wants a bit more fun, but we DO have a lot of fun. Our sex life is amazing...we ALWAYS try new things, toys, positions, you name it...so it kinda through me off.

You're right though, he did tell me the truth and he definitely didn't have to. IT would have been really easy for him to keep it a secret...

[Guest]

well, it's not cheating and he was honest with you about it. I'd say you are pretty lucky. have ya come right out and asked him why?

[st_simon]

oh yeah. i mean when he told me i wasn't just like 'okay' and that's that, i asked a LOT of questions. and a lot of good came from that, i definitely understand the situation a lot better, but it still hurts, and i know there isn't just some magical formula to make it stop hurting, but talking about it on here, hearing other people's perspective is very helpful.

[shweedart]

If it were me i'd get him to delete the pics of his ex


AND replace them with me! like Chandler said