[roherym]

My boyfriend brought up an interesting suggestion. he tells me he loves me, but wanted to know if he should cut back on the physical stuff to make sure its not lust hold us together. what do you guys think?

[WildChild]

Nah. I wouldn't go for that just because both of you climbing the walls in frustration won't prove anything.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ask him what he loves about you...

Ask him what things you do that makes him smile, quirks.

Ask him what your favour colour is, favourite food, type of movies, singer...

If he can answer those above, I'd say he loves you because he is paying attention, and "hangs on to what you tell him and do", providing you have told him or shown him those sorts of things.

Basically, if he knows nothing about you whatsoever, or can describe you, how can he be in love?

CW

[Guest]

yes, do the interrogation thing as CW suggests, always a winner!

although asking some of the questions may not be a bad idea as long as it's not done like an inquisition, dont mistake paying attention to trivia and then being able to spit it back out, for real feelings.

I could answer those kind of questions about a friend of mine, and a lot more personal questions about them too. doesnt mean I'm in love with them. well, not anymore anyway

seriously though, actions speak louder than words, and most communication is about tone and body language. how does he behave towards you, around you, or when talking with others about you?

[roherym]

Thanks!

shockingly, this worked, and he did know all the answers

Thanks guys!