[WildChild]

Sounds like what you are wanting is not what he is but what you think he could be.

You had an argument that lasted for months? How do you do that? The argument is over but you aren't friends and he won't talk to you? And he's really not a nice guy?

Can you tell us why you are so desparate for him and want to be with him? What is attractive about him? What is good?

[Guest]

Give the girl a break! Who knows why she's so into him; she may not be able to fully understand herself. Fact is things are not just white or black.

I think this calls for a risk assesment. It may even be helpful if you jot some things down on paper. You need to look at things perspectively: is it worth the risk being burned or being talked down to satisfy your desire of being with him?

[Calicorado83]

I just broke up with my ex whose not a nice guy, but in the bedroom we really knew how to rock it. Now that we are apart, I sometimes find myself with these sexual urges, and all I want to do is call him up for booty. The only reason I don't is because he's not a nice guy and he would brag about it to his friends later as if he's some sex freak or something that his ex just has to have him back in the sack.

But I can't help it. I'd just love to bend over for him and take it or give him a bj and suck it all down...it's crazy to think but I don't want him in any other way but sexual.