[sweetlilprincessbaby]

hey im currently in a relationship with the sweetest guy ive ever met. we have been together and talking for three in a half years we recently met up and had a great time together in nyc where he lives...and i came back home and have been waiting to see him again... the problem is he is married and has two little boys ...last year he was more than happy to have me come up there and meet him and he would come down and live with me....but some things happened and we stopped talking for a while... but he did tell his wife he was not in love with her any more and wanted to be with meand got kicked out....but i wasnt ready to be with him... now we got back together things are serious with us more than they have ever been we both love each other very much ..but he says i have to be patient because his job he has he cant lose it because of the economy is bad and he wont b able to find another job in his field so he wont tell her...we want to have a baby and he wants to start another family with me he says the easiest way to handle all this is for me to be pregnant and so he can tell every one and no body can stop us from being togethr than ...i love him soo much ..i need someone to tal to and hear some feed back please am i a mistress..???

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Wow, this is a different side of it all.

Well, you are if you are sleeping with him and he is still married.

But throw caution to the wind, don't get pregnant until he walks from his wife and even lives in another unit somewhere... if he has to remain for the time being for his job.

The last thing you want to do is have a baby and he never leaves his wife, and his way of doing it, really is wrong morally don't you think? Get pregnant, oh well that's the reason why I have to leave you dear, I owe it to my new born child to be there.

So, having said all of that, are you sure he did tell her in the first place and was kicked out?

And, if so, she obviously took him back, imagine the heartache for her at that time, and if he leaves again.. But, worse, imagine the heartache if you had a baby that was her husbands and was conceived at the time, she was still married to him, trying to reconsile?

How would you feel?

If he seriously loves you, he will tell her it's over and move out, not cheat on her anymore and let her grieve. Whilst at the same time, long distance is long distance if you are in love you will work it out until you can be together.

You have already done the wrong thing by going back "sexually" I assume, whilst knowing he is back with his wife but you don't need to do the wrong thing and break her heart over knowing that he had a child whilst still with her.

I know i have said that twice but you need to hear it.

Also, if he left her, went back, left her, he may do so to you, so you need to establish he will leave, has left, live together, establish your both happy and then have a child.

But he needs to leave on his own accord if he loves you even if you are prepared to up-root yourself totally and go to him, and move in together to save money, you need to discuss all aspects to determine that he will move mountains to be with you.

CW

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if he really loved you,he wouldnt need an excuse to be with you. its that simple.think of it this way..he had 2 kids NOW.. and he willing to up and leave them? that could be your kids someday when he decides he isnt in love with you anymore.
if he will cheat WITH you..he will cheat ON you.yes,you are the mistress.