[Hubby1]

I have been married to a wonderful woman for 16 years. Between careers and work, it seems we have drifted apart. I love my wife and want to spend the rest of my life with her, but really need some help getting things started again!

We have talked about date night once a month so we can just focus on us. Even though we have been married 16 years, I almost feel like I am going out with her for the first time and really want to make a good impression. I really would like feedback from the ladies on what makes a great date. What does your husband or boyfriend do to make you feel special etc?

I know a lot of people focus on sex, but I truly feel the sex part will work itself out once we can reconnect with each other. I look forward to any feedback and certainly appreciate your help

[Hopeless Dork]

Attention to the little details always makes for a great start to any special time together. If she is wearing a new perfume, if her hair is different etc, noticing and complimenting. That always puts me in a great mood right away, it shows you don't take for granted the effort she puts in trying to be attractive to you.

Manners Manner Manners. Opening doors, helping her with her coat, pulling out her chair - it may seem old fashioned but most women feel really special when their SO is being a gentleman.

If you go out for your date, treat her like she is the only woman in the world and don't flirt or eye other women (major major mood killer).

Engage in what she is talking about, take a genuine interest in her complaints or worries about anything and everything.

Innitiate PDA if out and cuddling if home. Reach for her hand, wrap your arm around her waist, treat her physically like you did when you first started dating and couldnt keep your hands off each other.

[kms]

You're right in wanting to focus on things other than sex. If everything else is good then she'll feel more into having sex. Just as HD suggested, really paying attention to her, complimenting her, treating her well, being polite, listening to her - all these things will make her feel much better and will help her see that you really care about her for HER and who she really is... and you're not just in it for sex.

[WildChild]

Women want to feel valued.

[MandyBee23]

When I go out on dates with my boyfriend I always hope he tells me how beautiful I am from across the table. I spend a good amount of time getting myself to look hot for him. So when he says something so simple as "you are so beautiful" it really makes me feel wonderful inside. And I always enjoy the silly little flirting like when we are having a drink he might say "I'm just trying to take advantage of you". I personally enjoy good conversation and laughter over dinner, it really shows me who I fell in love with.

[Hubby1]

Thank You for the Responses

Good Morning!

I just want to say thank you to everyone who took time to respond to my post. I certainly appreciate and will keep everyone posted on the progress. It is amazing how you loose focus of common sense things. I hope everyone has a great day and thanks again.

Hubby1