[Grimlin]

She and my dad are currently living apart. They're still legally married, but seperated. She told him recently that she wanted a divorce. She told him she didn't want it so she could be with someone else, but I have a feeling she's lying about it. Earlier today, I found a text message conversation on her phone from an unknown number. I couldn't read her replies, but the sender kept saying things like "I want to stick my in all your holes." She has a habit of never answering her phone either, so my suspicions of her cheating are becoming all the more clear.

Also, throughout my entire childhood, she always managed to be apart of my sister's life, but not mine. She made sure my sister always had plenty of clothes, whereas I barely had a weeks worth. She managed to make it to all my sister's cheer competitions, but not my karate competitions. After my sister got her license, she almost completely ignored me unless someone else was home. I had two years before getting my license. During that time, my dad worked nights so he was never home when she was.

The first year my dad worked nights, my sister lived with us. My mom would go straight to her room and hang out until she went to bed. Not even saying one word to me. The second year, my sister moved out. When mom would get home, she'd go straight to bed. I couldn't leave my house for two years, except for school one day a week because I was homeschooled.

Because of the lack of an actual mother in my life, I feel like I'm subconsciously trying to find a mother figure in anyone from my bf's mother, to an elderly store clerk. Also because I was so alone for so long and now having a very caring bf, I've developed a seperation anxiety whenever he or my dad leaves the house even when I know they're coming back.

[Guest]

I am sorry to hear that your mom has neglected you for a long time. Is there any way that you can live with your dad? How old are you?

You might also want to see someone because of your separation issues. You don't want to be dependent on people. You have to be able to know that you can handle yourself when you are alone.

[WildChild]

Who home schooled you?

[Grimlin]

I'm 18 and do live with my dad.

An actual school. It was an extension program thing. The school I was suppose to attend was .

[Inmydreams]

Man, that is crappy. It's awful when your own parent rejects you. I, too, feel like my mother loves my sister more than me because she has accomplished more in life at this point. It is not right. My mom always cares what my sister is doing more than what I am up to in my life. Even though I know she does love me, it still hurts alot. I guess I just feel people are going to be how they are going to be - they have to change themselves if they want to. I know it is hard, but just try to move on with your life and still love your mother, if just from a distance.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You know sometimes you have to ascertain why someone is the way they are, but you also have to accept everyone for whom they are..

There is a right and wrong but often people don't see it, for instance your Mother may have felt un-loved from her own mother, she may have favoured one sibling over another, or, your Mother had nothing/has nothing your Dad worked so many hours and she was left alone and so, she favoured based on what she wanted to achieve in live but didn't and focused on that only, her.... The sister is "her".... And the text messages and what ever she is doing is because she has felt for a long time herself unloved.

It's things like this that you have to deeply look at and take yourself out of the acquation...There are reasons for things and often it's not you at all.

Your parents would for sure hide alot you are 18... We never understand until we live life ourselves and then we see.

What you see now, and what you will see of all of this when your 25 is a big difference...

Parents protect, what you have established and found you only know what you know, what you read, what you have seen..

Please think about this because you have no idea whether your parents stayed together for you and your siblings and really didn't get along.

It's tough as a teenager and it's tough to feel unloved, my Mother did that to me until 25 but when I turned that age, I actually put all the pieces together and forgave and understood it all made sense.

Give yourself a break.

Give them a break.

And understand we are all human...

CW