[scott1989]

Hi ive been dateing this girl for like a month its not that long I guess, well Ive been hanging out with my girlfriend almost everyday and some days she might go hang with her girl firends or somthing like that but I have been talking sweet and writeing her poems and tell her she looks beatuful each day all that charming stuff but after a few weeks its like she has been hideing somthing I asked her whats wrong she says "nothing" just like that and kinda looks away but like the next day she is like all loveing me and stuff maybe she haveing some bad days or you think Im loveing her to much becuse sometimes I go crazy on love like I be your so beatiful today and all those nice comments...and whats also werid she barley says I love you to me I always end up haveing to say it and she also told me she really did'nt have a nice boyfriend like me before maybe she not used to it yet and she has feelings for me she told me. So you think I should just give her time to her self or just ask her whats really wrong and ask her idk Im confuesd well thank you if you can maybe help also Im new to the website peace.

[Guest]

Hi scott

I think you should talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel. Also she may not be used to all the affection you are giving. Give her some time to soak it all in. But you should definitely communicate how you feel.

[ren_07]

Sounds like you may be a little overbearing about this. I'm sure she's just as excited about this relationship as you, but she probably has some fears and doubts considering her past. People move at different paces. If you can tell she's not quite at your level of affection and excitement, then you should back off a little and maybe give her more time for her brain to adjust and want to pursue you and make the plans. She can't miss you if you never go away

[whit4488]

well i think it sounds like she just wants attention, i only know this because i use to be that girl. i use to be that way. just seeing how far you will go. and she may not be as into you as you may think. she might be with you because she was lonely and desperate before for attention. especially if yall are young. but you should find out whats really there.good luck

[caterpillar79]

I disagree with you, whit4488. Sometimes, being quiet is a choice, such that introvertion is a preference. Though there have been numerous arguments about that. I am a sociable introvert. I can communicate and express my thoughts if I want, and with the right person, with the right reasons. But if I don't have a compelling urge to talk, I keep my mouth shut, and engross myself in thinking and deliberating about issues, or just merely observe people.

In a relationship, I have the urge to find the right word to use to clearly illustrate how I perceive everything involving my heart, especially when I am relating them to my SO. I also found him doing the same thing for me. That fact makes me feel so special.

I think, Scott, your girl has a lot of thinking going on in her brain, that she finds hard to share with you. It might be that she's not that ready to share them yet. Maybe she needs to "feel safe" to share them with you. Don't force her out. Take your time, believe me, it is worth the wait.

I'd rather prefer a gal who talks less but once she does, it has a lot of meaning, than someone who just talks shallow things.

Do you know about the kids and the marshmallows? It's a psychological research - look it up and learn from it.