[scott1989]

Hey, Iv known this girl for severl years and we dated in the past and we broke up becuse she needed time to her self becuse she was haveing issues in the past with her parents breaking up and I said OK, and we talked it over so I gave her time to her self, but we are still friends her her parents love me alot they even told me if anything happend like issues at home you can come stay with us I said wow thanks, and made me feel good and so we are friends we dated diffrent people and stuff and kinda moved but we still have feelings for each other and so a month ago we started to date again and I told her I want this to be serious and stuff and I talked to her and all that she understands alot, but she promised me somthing but she went and did it with a other guy, sex she did and she said she would save her self for me but I understand girls have needs somtimes but I kinda hurt inside but on the other she really loves me and she told me that and with a serious face I said I do to...and those words are really strong...and we happy and stuff but I don't if I can trust her becuse she would save her self and she did lie about stuff, but I cant give up becuse I love her alot so Im giving her a second chance, and her parents want us to get married and there mom even had the sex talk with me I was scared and thought I was in trouble lol! becuse he handed me a condum and said i want you to the 1st for my girl and I was sad she said that...well she truley loves me well if any ideas please tell...thanks.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

becuse he handed me a condum and said i want you to the 1st for my girl

Please tell me your joking?

In any case, Scott, I think you "in-love" with the idea of "love"..

You had two girls on the go only a month ago and seemingly didn't know which one to choose.

And she may have made a promise to you, but you both went off and tried life without each other, which is healthy in as much as ascertaining how you feel about it each, plus your both young...

Obviously you asked her if she had, had sex, obviously she advised you that she had. There was no lie.

It was her life whilst single and split from you and now you are together.

But, I think her Dad needs a smack for doing that.. Maybe he felt that by providing you with a Condom, he was telling you to play it all very safe, but to say " I want you to be the first for my girl", that sucks sorry, I don't agree with that anology.

CW

[lee2009]

i agree with chandlers wish, there was no lie.but if she lied about other stuff i dont think that is a good relationship.you may truley love her but if she is going to be lieing to you, you will never be happy.