[Joy]

my bf has this one friend that goes way out of his way to be be annoying. OMG its as if he wants me to hate him. All my bf's past gf's have disliked him and its so the role he wants to play in life. Hahah i don't hate him or even dislike him he is actually a reall likeable guy but he just goes so out of his way to be a pain.

I think its a jealousy thing he has like he doens't want to have to share his friend so if there is always tension and upheaval then evetually he will get his own way or something.


oh well i've already accepted the fact he is part of my bf's life.... 5 years ago... yes this is how sad it is 5 years and he still acts this way.

I'd really like to approach him and say hey ya know what its ok he can be your friend too but really i think we are much too old for that it seems like such a high school thing. Oh well do you think one day he will grow out of this and just relax???

[Hopeless Dork]

Is he single? I am guessing so. Single guys that are watching their friends couple up and mature around them when they themselves are not ready can be needier than an insecure girlfriend when it comes to their buds. They are constantly bragging about their single life and all the fun their having (anyone who's been single knows...it really isn't that darn fun) but they want to encourage their coupled up friends to be single again, no one wants to be the last man standing.

When they realize their friends are not falling for it.. they become resentful of the woman they think took their friend away. You are right, there is jealousy. At some point he will come to the same conclusion that you did, that you are going to have to learn to get along as neither of you are going anywhere.

Have you tried taking interest in his life? Or encouraged your guy to do an activity with him on a certain night or something.. anything that would show him that you are not controlling his friend and that you are welcoming him to be apart of your man's life would probably help.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

That's the first thing I thought....

He is frightened of totally being alone maybe.....a threat.

You would think after 5 years he's got the hint your not going anywhere, but it's people like this that continue to try to cause waves with mates relationships so that they become single and so that, they get their main man back.

Doubt you have to be careful, not after 5 years.

I don't think you have to say anything, actions speak louder than words in my opinion, just keep smiling he'll soon realise he's okay in your books.

CW

[Joy]

I totally agree and my bf and can whatever he wants with his friend whenever he wants. This friend moved in with us 6 months ago. He moved across country and then moved back and had no where to go so he is with us. They spend lots of time together and i cook beautiful meals all the time so I think my actions speak volumes that i'm accepting him 100% Yes i take interest in his life and I am always concerned about his well being.

He just always living in past bringing up past GF's and making duh comments when I buy something for my bf about past gf's and what they bought him or didn't or would have never bought him. Its not in a good way either cause I can tell it s all in tone of his voice and the words he choses. Its like he wants to dampen our moment with duh comments its just werid.

Thanks for you comments i totally agree with you guys I like his friend he just needs to accept that his friends life has changed and i'm not like all the other GF's. We've had our ups and down's forsure but we've got a good life . My BF's past GF's treated him badly and used and abused him we have so much more respect for one anothers feelings and we are growing everyday to better with each other.