[wynter]

the other day my boyfriend started saying that he thinks i would be happyer without him so he said he wanted to break up i first tought he was messing but then when he kept sayin it i tout it was real i started to cry and he just sad im sorry. then after about 5mins he said i really take things to far it was only a joke i love you so much. i am still with him. could he be planing to brake up with me and just did that to see what i would say? i really need some help please i love him so much i have bein with him a year and a half
thank you.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Wow wynter...

See, even if he was joking, it's kind of immature, it's a test...

You cried... He got to see he was safe.... and so that's it...



You know in your heart how you both get along and if he's happy. If he's controlling though in other ways, you really need to think hard about that word love.

It's emotional abuse in some ways, phyc you to love him even more...

Maybe you should tell us more about the relationship and how you usually are.

CW

[Joy]

well this a great opprotunity to start developing your own life skills. Its a wake up call that you can't put all your love and emotion on some one else being there. You have to feel complete and well rounded all on your own.

I know you love him but if he did break up with you ... well you would hurt and be sad but its not the end of the world and their is life after a break up.

If he was playing a game with your heart ... that is sad and immature.

[lizzy_09]

Its a wake up call that you can't put all your love and emotion on some one else being there. You have to feel complete and well rounded all on your own.

I quiet agree. Don't put all your heart out to him. Call it self-preservation if you have to. At least that way, when it doesn't work out between you to, it wouldn't be that hard to let it go.

[wynter]

hi
chandlers wish, thank you for your reply.we always had a good relationship, he always tells me that he loves me and that he never wants to lose me, we hardly ever fite, we just get along so well, so when he said this it just hurt really bad, but when he said it was only a joke it made me so happy that we wer'nt breaking up but also mad me so angry that he would do that to me.
joy and lizzy thank you also for your replies, it actually made me think that if he really did want to break up there was nothing i could do about it and that i have to start getting a little bit more independent.

[Joy]

well by being more independant and that much more complete then why would he break up with you.......... you'd be the perfect catch!