[Ahryin]

I have made many ref's to the 80/20 rule I wanted to take a moment to explain what I mean for those of you who don't know.

This is a quote from the Tyler Perry movie..why did I get married I think it explains it very simply and best

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will
only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that
you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or
women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is
lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks
really good when you are not getting it at all in your current
relationship.


But the problem is that you will always be tempted to
leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get
something better with the other 20% that you WANT.


But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will
always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that
you really NEED and that you already had.


Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED
in your life.

[WildChild]

Actually the 80/20 rule originates from business. Typically in sales 20% of the people make 80% of the sales, this is verifiable by looking at the numbers. It also seems to apply in other settings, there is a core group that just produces, they get things done and the rest sort of slide doing the minimum, this is harder to quantify.

I don't know about this application to relationships, I get the feeling that in many cases far less than 80% of what is needed is there and very little of what is wanted. BUt that perception is probably colored by my own experiences.

[Ahryin]

It was originally called the Pareto principle and is a common rule of thumb in most business practices. I'm well aware of its origins however in today's society especially in relationships this 80/20 meaning is servicing as more of a pillar of understanding especially in the counseling department. I wanted to give more insight as to what I was ref'ing when commenting on peoples threads