[ellewoods212]

I've been here before under the sn Mommy2

Well heres my deal

my guy started school Monday, everything was fine I was proud and supportive hes in school full time, so because Im thinking we're in this for the long run and this is a partnership its ok that I work full time and currently dont ask him for anything since he lost his job. Well yesterday I was expected to be home late but got home early and he wasnt there well I got there and found a filled out apt. application sitting on the computer desk ,the applications were in the city where he goes to school which is 15-20 minutes away, he doesnt really do much commuting because when he has hours between classes he stays at a friends house until the next class. I was heart broken...I was waiting for him to come home and he messages me at around 10pm but didnt come home until 2am.obviously I was sleep but he came in all over me touching me...initiating s3x, we were at it then suddenly he "died" and I was like "what happened" and hes like well "i cant get it ^" and we just rolled over, because of how he approached me when he got home and the time I didnt mention the application..when I got up this morning I asked him about it

Me: Why didnt you tell me you were planning on moving out.?
Him: HUH? What?
Me: I mean, I seen the paper why didnt you mention it.
Him: Naw, Not really I just picked it up when I was over *friends name* house ..
Me: (while walkin down the steps) Oh, I was just asking...for heads up..

No word from him since...no messages nothing idk what to think, I know some of you remember my previous threads..but I thought things were ok....im going crazy Idk if i should say something to hime because he might feel awkward about the issue last night or if the tension is because I found the filled out application (with moms info as co signer)....


???help

[Ahryin]

This is your son? HOw old is he? If he didn't ask you to co sign (which he needs your permission) why would you? I guess I need some more background info since i'm clueless as to what the problem is

[ellewoods212]

No this is my BOYFRIEND...i found the rental application filled out with his moms info as cosigner

[ellewoods212]

lol, please read again though because if this was my son the sexual encounter would have been very sick LOL but no really all jokes aside...this is my bf and i need input

[Ahryin]

Ok i'm sorry I got it now....
First off you need to talk to him, not while walking down the steps but sit down and speak to him. With clear questions and clear answers. If you have already seen that he placed his mothers info on it that is a clear sign that he is planning on moving out. He didn't plan on you seeing the application.
Has he ever had issues with not being able to get it up? Was he drunk?

[ellewoods212]

a few times (2xs before if i can recall) before he tends to watch porn alot BUT he was at school ALL day, if he did watch porn in the morning he had from 11am to 2am(thats when he came home not unusual hes aspirin musican and is in the studio a while sometimes rarely 2am tho) to get it all back together....he hasnt spoke to me at all today, I remembered earlier tht a few months back he mentioned when we were arguin "when i can move i am" but then he took it back blah blah..but now Im thinkin "hes gettin a refund check from school soon" I mean he filled it out..but who puts some1 as a cosigner without askin them about it? so if it was discussed why did he tell me "naww not really" when i asked him if he was moving out....

when I came home during lunch the app. was still on the computer desk...

[Ahryin]

Na not really isn't a acceptable answer, either you are or you aren't....if he is you need to stop sleeping with him, have his things packed and at the door! Truthfully I would tell him to leave right then and there because you are not a yo-yo! He doesn't need to be eating up your food, drinking your water, using your lights while he saves his money to get his own place!
From what you are saying it sounds like he is playing games...if you are cool with his mother I would give her a call!

[ellewoods212]

I asked him

so i asked him..I said " i need to know if you're leaving because you know how involved i am, and it wouldnt be fair to be living with me if you are. "naw not really" wasnt an answer do i need to know.

his response
do you really wanna have this conversation right now?

me:
Yes or no? it doesnt have to be a conversation

him
i never said i was leaving.

me:
well what i seen said otherwise and i deserve to know what route my personal life is taken so thats why i asked, but if thats your response then ok.


was that ok?? did i miss anything (yes im a reassurance type of gal)

[CHANDLERS WISH]

ellewoods212.

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