[bebah]

Hi, this is my first time here and don't know really how and where to start.

I'm young and recently got a divorce (I have 2 kids).
After my divorce I ran into an ex boyfriend (12 years ago, in highschool) who I always thought was the love of my life. He's now married.
After chatting for a while we agreed to see each other. Since then every now and then we get together for sex. I don't intend to stay with him, I don't want him to leave his wife. (and I really can't believe he's cheating on her, he was this great decent guy)
What's wrong with me... what am I doing...
I sometimes feel I'll stay bymyself forever, actually that was in the first place the reason why I got married... to avoid feeling lonely.

Any advice?? Thanks a lot.

[Mes T]

My advice is to STOP seeing this guy. You're pretty much "the other woman," and could potentially bring a lot of hurt and suffering to this couple when the wife finds out.

If this guy wants to cheat on his wife, so be it, but YOU shouldn't be involved in his dirty games.

It's not good for anyone, least of all your self-worth.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hi, this is my first time here and don't know really how and where to start.

I'm young and recently got a divorce (I have 2 kids).
After my divorce I ran into an ex boyfriend (12 years ago, in highschool) who I always thought was the love of my life. He's now married.
After chatting for a while we agreed to see each other. Since then every now and then we get together for sex. I don't intend to stay with him, I don't want him to leave his wife. (and I really can't believe he's cheating on her, he was this great decent guy)
What's wrong with me... what am I doing...
I sometimes feel I'll stay bymyself forever, actually that was in the first place the reason why I got married... to avoid feeling lonely.

Any advice?? Thanks a lot.

You married out of lonliness, that's why that marriage didn't work.. Your now sleeping with a married man, that is why that won't work...

You feel like you will be by yourself forever, because you have no self worth, you don't realise what you have to offer anyone. You think you don't have anything to offer, just settle, with who ever, just to feel loved.

Stop .

The main person you have to learn to love is yourself. Un-conditionally, look in that mirror and stop beating yourself up and think you have to take the next thing that walks with a penis, because you aren't worth anything.

When you work that out, you will cringe at what you have just done and what you did, by marrying a man you didn't love.

You may have thought 12 years ago he was a "nice guy" but look at this. You pour your heart out over your divorce and he says "rubbing his hands together", let's see what your like in bed now, your lonely, my wife doesn't give it up very often, yay, I can get lots of sex now, .....

Pftttt aren't you worth more?

Have your morals fallen to the ground?

Think hard.. when was the last time you put makeup on, a nice dress, looked at yourself and said "wicked?"...

Time to work out what you don't like about yourself, change it and give yourself back those morals that used to be there.

CW