[nubianqueen]

This may sound like a cliche, but how do u truly know if ur bf (or gf) is "the one"???

also, what if u know ur bf is definitely husband material (and would make an excellent dad one day), but u are just a little unsure of certain things?? would it still be safe to consider them to be "the one"??

[kygirl]

This may sound like a cliche, but how do u truly know if ur bf (or gf) is "the one"???

also, what if u know ur bf is definitely husband material (and would make an excellent dad one day), but u are just a little unsure of certain things?? would it still be safe to consider them to be "the one"??

I don't really believe in "the one." I think there are many people in this world that you can be happy with and the one is nothing more than the person you decide it's the write time and place and circumstances to give it a shot longterm.

Not sure what you mean about "uncertain about things", but it would depend on whether you are uncertain about if you want to be with them or just uncertain for some other reason...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

No one is perfect and I think if we come to that realisation and don't have everything put into "boxes" tick, tick, cross, tick, but we do have with them "good, very good communication", then I believe anything can be compromised and therefore, that's a good marriage material relationship.

CW

[prawnprincess]

A lot of guys have that charm that you can see from a distance that they will make a great dad. That characteristic is an easy one to fall in love with, but there are many other important things that need to click. So if you're having some doubts, they're probably there for a reason.

[Guest]

i dont believe there is "the one" for either men or women. a lot of people are Mr or Ms Right, and an awful lot are Mr & Ms Wrong, but I do think that is more than one person that would right for any one of us.

the trick is finding them in the crowd of 6 billion on this planet...

[newhere808]

Honestly, I feel there are no two people that will marry and live happily ever after, without making it work that way. Loving someone is more than just an emotion, it is a decision made every day you wake up with that person. To love them when they are insensitive, when they forget or when they p*ss you off. A relationship is not all rainbows and butterflies, not for very long.

If the guy you are with is someone that you can be with day in and day out, someone you could see yourself working with at building a life, chances are you found someone worth taking that gamble with. Just remember, relationships are only as "sure" as the two people involved are willing to make it.

[GoodEgg]

Couldn't agree more with the above. I'm hypothesizing that there could be two reasons for why I've come to think of "the one" as a myth. It could come down to the fact that believing anyone is "the one" puts too much pressure on the relationship and ends up putting too much focus on anything that goes wrong and ends up condemning the relationship to failure. Or it could be that I've become too much of realist. The lesson that's come down hardest on me over the years is how much work it takes on both ends to make a loving relationship work. In my case, there's been too many times that there's an imbalance in how one person feels versus the other. I guess once I gain a relationship where I really feel the balance is there, I'd probably be better equipped to answer the topic question...

[caterpillar79]

Pick the person who brings out the best in you, and you have the same effect on him/her as well. Attraction is present with love and loyalty, and you can both grow together and become better individuals. I think these are some of the benchmarks.