[Guest]

Yeah me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year... I am feeling worse and worse as days go by b/c it seems like when he is home and not with his friends he sits in front of the tv or computer and its like im not visible.. he never goes to bed when i go to bed.. and he isnt very affectionate.. does this mean i am too affectionate.. at this time in our relationship should we be this way..?

[kaylar]

His behaviour is the kind you see when a guy
has found someone else and is just hanging
around out of sloth.

He has lost interest.
No sense in doing more than moving out.

Don't tell him either.
Just pack up and leave when he's not
there.

See what happens.

[Guest]

I hope this helps.

I've been exactly were you are before. Although, I thought I wasn't giving my boyfriend enough attention. It's not you. A guy's mind can be like a fish. Here one minute; gone the next. He may not realize that he's being distant or unaffectionate. Talk to him about it. Nothing can go wrong if you just state how you feel about something. If talking doesn't work hide or get ride of everything that he could get distracted by.

[Guest]

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Pam

[stephanie m]

i dont think that my boy friend and i have enough sex. sometimes im a the mood and he's not which get me mad, but i can't really say anything. what can you suggest me?

[stephanie m]

i am 21 and his 30 could that be a problem?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yeah me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year... I am feeling worse and worse as days go by b/c it seems like when he is home and not with his friends he sits in front of the tv or computer and its like im not visible.. he never goes to bed when i go to bed.. and he isnt very affectionate.. does this mean i am too affectionate.. at this time in our relationship should we be this way..?

I agree with youngmother.

But if he's not open to listen then he's just a "boy" doing his "boy things" and will continue to do so unfortunately.

Some guys like relationships for company, a bit of sex, and a person to take to bbq's, spend xmas with etc, another words, don't get lonely.

So if that's the case, then i will agree with Kaylar. You deserve better, so move on, plenty of fish in the sea. If he can't communicate with you now he won't learn it over time, well he might but you'll live a very unhappy few years.

Men statisically are 4 years less mature than a woman, not sure how old you are but i'm betting, youngish...

Never easy to pick the "right one" for you no matter how old you are but you learn what you do like and don't like out of a relationship, it's all part of the course.

[stephanie m]

dou you think that his too old for me?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

dou you think that his too old for me?

Hi Stephanie,

Tell us more.

Like how long you've been going out with him, how you met, do you live together, how the relationship has been before you started to feel that he doesn't want to have sex with as much now...

Hard to answer as unsure about the relationship.